- 8 months ago
- Wedding: City, State
It is looking like I am going to have to make the really difficult decision to put one of my dogs down. He is 15 years old and is a big guy, so he’s made it long past what I expected, but I’ve never had to make this type of decision before and I am so distressed. Over the last few months he has starting drinking an extreme amount of water and is now urinating on himself in his sleep in addition to not being able to control his bowels. He has a tremendous amount of difficulty standing up on his own, is stiff and staggers when he walks due to arthritis, falls down quite a bit, and can’t even stand up long enough to eat his meal. I am now bathing him sometimes twice a day and having to mop the house at least 1x a day.
I did take him to the vet and his kidneys are in great shape so they think it’s some sort of “spinal insult” in addition to arthritis that’s making him lose control of his bodily functions. They gave me medicine for the arthritis & pain along with something to help with the urination, but nothing we have tried has helped him. I am struggling because I feel like I should be able to do more to help him even though logically I can’t think of anything else I could possibly do. I just don’t want to have to end his life; I really, really, really, don’t want to make that decision–I don’t feel like it’s my place to make that decision. I wish he could talk and tell me what he wants cause he doesn’t whine or anything to tell me he’s in pain; he’s always been very stoic. He does get happy when I come home and still gives out love in spades, but I also don’t want to wait so long that I am being cruel.
I need some help from those of you who have been there before–any words of advice or comfort to offer?