(Closed) NWR: Need to vent….So angry at my ex!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

That sucks!! Is your name on the lease where you currently rent? Cuz if not, you could just leave out the fact that you rent as well…

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I feel your pain!!! I left my piece of crap ex (husband) with the house we bought together a couple years earlier…I wanted nothing to do with him or the house…he insisted that he wanted to keep it and would pay the mortgage.  Turns out he found renters to live in our house while he moved in with his parents.  Well, he just pocketed the $$ from the renters (1K a month) and did not pay the mortgage at alll….for almost a year.  I started to get forecloseure letters, ect saying we owed thousands to get current on the loan.  It ended up being foreclosed (since there was no way I was paying another dime on it)…my credit is now ruined.  Luckily for me SO has excellent credit and we live in a lovely house now.  It just REALLY pissed me off!!  Im sorry your ex sucks ass too!!!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh wow these are some true horror stories for house purchasing, married or not!

I hate when I hear it, but most my family members are lawyers and they are constantly brining up how important getting things in writing are, pre-nups, and knowing your rights, divorced or broken up etc etc. Many don’t know the risks!

I’m so sorry this is happening, just keep in mind if its of any comfort that your ex is going to reap what he sews!!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Maybe you could talk to a lawyer about this and see if there is another option. I know when my husband’s parents got divorced, his dad had to give his mom half the equity of the house, since it had been paid off for years. He got a HE loan and paid for her condo and is paying that off.

I know you guys didn’t divorce, but doesn’t he have to give you some kind of compensation? Or does that not happen until the house sells?

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah I think talking to a lawyer is a good idea.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I had a friend who went though this same thing.  It’s one of the big risks when buying a house with someone when you are not yet married.  The only way to force your name off the mortgage is to file for bankruptcy.  If you are married you can go through a divorce and have the situation figured out in court, but if you’re not married, there’s no way to legally force your name off the morgage.  When my now husband and I purchased a house before we were married, we got the mortgage in my name only and signed another legal document to outline exactly what was to happen if we were to break up before the wedding.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yikes, what a horrible situation! I am so sorry for you hun. Please talk to a lawyer and if you are tight on budget, then please consult a subsidized Govt. lawyer to at least find out what are your options.

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