Post # 1
I’m on the fence with including “No gifts necessary” on an upcoming birthday party invite.
On one hand, everyone is an adult. If you want to bring a gift, bring a gift! If you don’t, don’t! I, personally, dislike being told if I should bring a gift or not to an event.
However, the last several invites I have received (for aquaintances/not close friends) had the ‘no gifts necessary’ inclusion and I thought it was a nice touch. (In the past, it would rub me the wrong way!!)
On the other hand, if there is no mention on an invite, if I feel like bringing a present, I do… and if I don’t, I don’t feel any guilt.
So, hive, what say you – include or not include?
If it helps, it would be part of an ‘information’ section of info like this:
Come when you can, leave when you must. Adults only preferred. Feel free to bring a +1 (date/spouse/friend). No gifts necessary.
Post # 3
What about putting “Best wishes only”? I think that’s what people say when gifts are not expected.
If people really want to bring something, they will anyways though.
Post # 4
@oracle: I dislike any references to gifts on an invitation.
A friend recently had a birthday party with this wording:
We are blessed in our lives. Please share our blessings by only bringing a donation for the food bank.
I realize it still asks the guests to bring something, but it does get the message across that no gifts are wanted for the bithday boy.
Post # 5
Generally, I’d say leave it off. However, judging by your comment about recent invites, if it’s common in your circle, go for it.
Post # 6
@oracle: I guess it would depend on your social group but I don’t think it’s necessary to weite. I dont gift for adult birthdays except I would bring wine or flowers maybe.
Post # 7
@oracle: I’d say nothing… if I got such an invite and it were a close friend of mine, I’d show up with a small gift anyway. In my culture it’s absolutely unacceptable to show up at someone’s house or event empty handed.
Post # 8
i don’t like it because it makes me think “omgggg was i supposed to bring a gift to all those other birthday parties i attended?!” at this point i don’t think adults should be exchanging birthday gifts unless they’re super close and WANT to. if someone really wants to bring a gift, they will regardless of information on an invitation… i seriously would never think i had to bring a gift for an adult.
Post # 9
I personally like when it is spelled out for me – it takes the guesswork out of it and I just know whether to bring a gift or not!
Post # 10
I think that it’s an unneccessary thing to say for an adult’s birthday party.
If it’s a kid’s bday party where gifts are definitely going to get brought, and the child or parent would prefer no gifts but a donation i think it’s appropriate to say
I also think it’s fine to say for a party that people typically would bring gifts. Showers, engagement parties (gifts at those are questionable, sometimes yes sometimes no) etc…
Post # 11
For some reason having “no gifts necessary” rubs me the wrong way.
Obviously no gifts are necessary – when, ever in life, are gifts necessary? It’s a nice gesture and maybe the “polite” thing to do but they’re never necessary. It’s just stating the obvious and comes off as reverse psychology for the guests.
Post # 12
@oracle: I would only say “no gifts please” because gifts are never necessary and as an adult I haven’t been to a party in YEARS where everyone brought a gift
Post # 13
Most adults I know don’t bring gifts to a birthday party, but I don’t think the note is offensive if you put it with all the other information.
Although I might not listen to you and bring you a gift anyway, that’s my call, not yours. 🙂
Post # 14
I would just leave it out entirely.
Post # 15
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I would just say ‘best wishes only’, because that’s typically what is written when guests shouldn’t bring gifts. ‘No gifts necessary’ is a little odd, because gifts are never necessary.
Post # 16
Thanks, everyone! Your comments were very helpful. I’m going to leave it off entirely!