Post # 1
My hubs and I recently read Gary Chapman’s “The 5 Love Languages”. I made him read it too, and he actually finished it before I did (heh heh). I think my man’s primary love language is “Acts of Service”, and mine is probably “Words of Affirmation”. Our secondary language is definitely “Physical Touch”.
Just curious.. For those who are familiar with this book, what are yours and your SO’s love languages? And what are some examples that demonstrate your language? You can select more than 1.
Post # 3
I havn’t read the book but we read Gary Chapman’s love languages devotional every night and he goes through them. I am acts of service and my husband is words of affirmation and physical touch. It’s so helpful to know these!
He brings me coffee every now and then at work and it always make me feel so special because he was thinking about me. Any time I tell him why I love him or rub his back he loves it!
Post # 4
I’m equally split between Words of Affirmation and Quality Time. It’s a good thing my SO is good at both, because we are currently long distance and since I can’t have one, it’s good to have the other. I really need to get him to take this so we can better understand each other!
PS – You can take a short version of the quiz online here: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Mine is quality time. My FI’s is acts of service
Post # 6
OMG!! I love this book! My primary love language is quality time and his is acts of service. His secondary is definitely physical touch. He demonstrates my love language by traveling and hanging out alone or even little things like going to the grocery store together. As long as we spend time together talking to each other about the littlest things it makes me happy. For his love language of acts of service I sometimes help clean his room or run little errands for him, we both get busy but when I help him he is so much less stressed and really appreciates the little errands I do. His secondary language I definitely could work on because I am not the best at it and always want more intimacy, etc.
Post # 7
My top two are quality time and words of affirmation. My FI’s top two are quality time and physical touch.
Post # 8
@MissCalifornia: Thanks for that quiz!
On the surface I would of thought my strongest would be quality time, but based on the quiz it is physical touch. But after really thinking about it, it is true! I am a VERY affectionate person (being raised in a home where my mom kissed and hugged us many many times a day) that I do need that and love being physically touched in my relationship. I even joke with my husband that since I am his wife “I can touch him whenever I want,” lol! So it is cool to have a survey make me understand what was already evident.
Post # 9
I have never heard of this before, but just took the quiz and mine is quality time. I dunno if I can get Darling Husband to take it (he will say is cheesy I’m sure!) but im going to try!
Post # 10
I haven’t read the book yet but I did take the quiz awhile back and I was soo unimpressed with it- It was way too easy to guess what love language you would get based on the quiz answers. It’s like those Facebook “Which Disney Princess Are You?” quizzes that ask “What would your favorite dress be” and the answers are something like “blue with a yellow skirt” and “seashell bra”. IMO, a good quiz hides the link between the questions and the results so that you can’t know the results before you get to the end of the quiz.
But I’m quality time and physical touch with acts of service and gifts right below those two. SO is quality time and maybe Words of Affirmation with gifts and acts of service at the rock bottom. But we were able to pretty much guess that without the quiz once we were aware of the Gary Chapman vocabulary (and even though I didn’t like the quiz I do think this is a very valuable tool for couples).
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Acts of Service all the way! I really love it when I come home from work and he’s cleaned the kitchen or done a load of laundry. I pretty much take care of everything around the house. So when he steps up and does something without being asked, he’s only doing it to make me happy. 🙂
Post # 12
Words of Affirmation for me. I am not big on quality time but SO is so I think that’s his. But yeah, it’s all about the words.
Post # 13
Mine is quality time, Fiance acts of service
Post # 14
I am a big believer in the 5 love languages…I’m quality time by a landslide and I think my husband is too. His secondary is probably physical touch or gifts. Just took that little quiz and apparently my secondary is physical touch.
Post # 15
Mine are tied for quality time and physical touch.
I like to joke that this means that sex is my love language. 😉
Post # 16
LOL….i voted for all of them! I have read the book but I really can’t decide on one or the other.