- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Hello Catholic Bees!
I’m a practicing Catholic pregnant with our first child. While I am practicing, I’m unfamiliar with how strict the Church is about baptism. Here’s the situation:
- Hubs was not brought up in any faith. He has conscienciously agreed to bring up our future kids Catholic…I underline & bold because he VERY MUCH wants to participate in our kids’ spiritual growth, so he is actively trying to understand the ins & outs of the Catholic faith through me (related note: he usually comes with me to mass; only a rare professional or familial responsibility will preclude his attendance).
- After going through my Confirmation classes (during our engagement), I’ve informed him of the purpose of godparents (to guide the kid through the moral difficulties they will face & guide their spiritual journey of understanding their faith in God, per the Catholic tradition). Based on this understanding, we’d both like our future kid(s)’s godparents to be people whom we trust will be stable, frequent participants in our kid(s)’s life AND who will have the patience to encourage the kid’s questioning of faith & creativity to bring understanding of the Catholic faith through that questioning.
- Since these godparents should also be Catholics, we’ve got rather few choices in our lives for godparent candidates. We’ve nailed down our choice for godfather, but we’re at a loss for a godmother…all the Catholic (or other faith affiliated) women in my life are missing one of the “criteria” above (either they are too geographically or amicably far from us to be frequent participants in our kid’s life, have issues in their lives that make them unstable, or are not patient or creative enough to encourage understanding of the faith, as opposed to blind following of the faith). The women in Hubs’ life are mostly unreligious & that makes me doubt (actually it makes us BOTH doubt) how willing they would be to be a faithfilled guide to our kid(s).
So here’s the question(s): (if you’ve gotten this far, THANK YOU for reading)
- Is it okay to have only ONE godparent for a baptism? Has anyone ever been through such a baptism?
- Have any of you Catholic parents “just picked someone” fill the two godparent quota? If so, how’s that going for you & your child?
NOTE: I am aware of the caveat that a godparent can be baptised as a non-Catholic as long as there is a Catholic sponsor, but our challenge is that we think the other godparent should be a woman (in case the Kid is a girl, and to lend a female POV when necessary regardless of the sex of the Kid). Additionally, I’ve never been to a baptism where both godparents were one sex…has anyone else? Just curious on that last point.
Thanks for ANY feedback!