Post # 1
Hi ladies, I have a question for you all.
Yesterday I had a conversation with a coworker that has really upset me. I’ll spare you the details on how it came up but she went into this long tirade about how she is actually racist and starts lecturing me on how white people are part of the superior race etc. At first I thought she was kidding but about 4 minutes into her speech I was horrified to realize she was being sincere.
I excused myself from the conversation and it ended there. She continued on during the rest of the day like nothing out of the ordinary had happened. I guess it wasn’t a big deal for her but I was dumbstruck. Call me naive but I didn’t think people like that still existed in mainstream society.
So here’s my dilemma… is this something I need to report to my HR people? We work with the public (people of all shapes and colours!) and our staff is very diverse. It makes me uncomfortable to think of her looking down on our coworkers or clients but I don’t want to start drama by tattling on her. But she must be violating some kind of employment or labour law!
Has anyone had to deal with this before? I have a feeling keeping my mouth shut and avoiding her would be the best option but I feel like doing so would be unfair to my other coworkers.
Post # 3
As much as her speech was deplorable/despicable/horrible, I don’t think you should report this to HR. It sounded like she was talking to you “over the water cooler” and I am guessing HR probably could not do anything. All that would happen is this woman would find out you “told on” her and she would get pissed at you.
I think avoiding her is the best plan….IMO.
Post # 4
Unless she acts on her opinions, they are simply that: opinions. If you report her it is hearsay. You can’t do much about it.
They one way around it maybe is if you go to them and report how uncomfortable the conversation made you.
Post # 5
If this is something that’s truly bothering you, which it clearly is, then you should go to HR. However, keep in mind that even if you ask to remain anonymous she will more than likely know it was you unless she goes around spewing this garbage to everyone in the office. Will she lose her job over this? Probably not so you will have to deal with her from here on out. Is that something you’re willing tolerate?
Post # 6
I would say it is worth reporting that the conversation made you uncomfortable just so it is on record. If she is that seriously racist you don’t know that in a year she might yell something racist at a coworker and that report from your incident might make or break an argument against her.
Post # 7
I work with some racist idiots who say some offensive things from time to time (like the chick who sits next to me who said that this was a great town until all the Mexicans started flooding the place) but never anything like what she said to you. She seriously talked about how the white race is superior? That’s pretty unbelievable and I personally think attitudes like that lead to violence. I would at the very least report the conversation because even though “that’s just her opinion and she has a right to it” she should know better than to talk about that stuff at work. And at least it will already be documented in her file that she’s a shit-for-brains racist if she ever acts out in the future.
Post # 8
Thanks for your input everyone.. I like the idea of putting something on record but not taking any action against her. Perhaps I am not the first person she has shared her opinions with. I’ll see if I can do it in a way that won’t be made known to her. What a mess!