(Closed) NWR – Rant About Weddingbee

posted 3 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 2
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4237 posts
Honey bee

I mean, no one is forcing you to use weddingbee if you think we’re a bunch of nasty jerks…

Post # 3
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3459 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Because its the internet and some people are rude, nasty or in my case extremely blunt at times. But I’m not the sensitive type to let what a total stranger says bother me. Especially not enough to think of it beyond that moment. If you ask for opinions be prepared for some snide responses that might not be absolutely necessary but some people type exactly whats on their minds. More important question is why are you letting complete strangers comments bother you so?

Post # 4
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4237 posts
Honey bee

Also, I just looked through your old posts to see the offensive comments your mentioned- are you talking about the “Way To Involve Mom” thread? Because unless I missed something, no one said that your dad walking you down the aisle is old fashioned and makes you seem like property. One poster said she agrees with your mom that it seems unfair dads get the spotlight (father-daughter dance, walking down the aisle) just for being the dad, and another said that she was in kind of the same situation as you but personally felt the tradition was sexist (so not a value judgement on you, just giving her own perspective and then relating that to what she actually did). Was there another thread I’m missing? 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

thepurplegirl :  I’ve noticed this too.  I try to ignore it because I know some people just like to be unkind, but it does detract from the truly helpful responses that a lot of Bees give.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

thepurplegirl :  Wedding bee can get nasty at times (certain types of posts bring out the bullies), but I don’t have a problem with either of the examples you cited.

I found your own thread and the people who expressed that dad walking you was sexist, did it in a polite way, I thought. And I think the comment that parent-child dances can be creepy, is a way of saying, “You don’t have to do this at all, have you thought about that?”

ETA: If you see something jerkish, I think it’s far better to call it out then and there in the thread. That has the advantage of showing support to the person (maybe) being criticised or bullied.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

thepurplegirl :  people feel comfortable writing anything under the veil of anonymity that the internet provides. it’s why people are jerks online but it’s also why fora like this are able to offer such genuine feedback to people looking for it. in my experience weddingbee is wayyyyyyy nicer and gentler than any other online space. there are a few here who like to throw an inflamatory remark or feel superior from time to time, but for the most part i’ve gotten great advice from total strangers…which is kind of a feat in itself! 

Post # 8
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4027 posts
Honey bee

thepurplegirl :  I feel I have gotten a few rude, condescending, or smart-ass comments once in awhile as well when I ask questions. And one specific person here comes to my mind. However, I’ve noticed her comments on other people’s questions are the same tone as well if not worse. So, I just finally realized that it’s not me. I have to say majority of the bees have been helpful & supportive. I think whether it’s work, family, school, friends, going to the store, etc., there’s always a few people who are that way. Plus as everyone have said, it’s much easier to do it in the internet where you do not have face to face confrontation. Have you seen the comments on YouTube? The fights there are so ridiculous and hilarious at the same time. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

thepurplegirl :  I completely agree, but I see it on Facebook in comment sections all the time too. I’m the type of person who doesn’t type things online I wouldn’t say to someone’s face. 

I think society (wrongly) feels that the Internet gives them free reign to “speak their mind” and some people take that for granted and use it as an excuse to be shitty. 

Be nice to people. It is a very small step that can help make a person’s day. 

Post # 10
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4254 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

This site is way way waaaaaayyyyy nicer than most other sites on the internet.

Post # 11
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3905 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

thepurplegirl :  you ask for advice or opinions and that is what you get. Opinions are like assholes everyone has one and they all stink lol those “snide” remarks are part of that opinion/advice. So it comes with the territory. Like it or hate it, it is what it is. When you ask for opinions you have to be prepared to hear stuff you dont like, it’s just life. If you can’t deal with answers you don’t like or opinions you don’t agree with then don’t ask the question! One thing I love about the Bee is that people are honest. This is not a bakery, we don’t sugar coat shit… and this is why I love it, IRL people tend to be to PC these days, on the internet you get peoples real opinions. 

Post # 12
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2017 posts
Buzzing bee

If you don’t want opinions, just say you need confirmation or affirmation on your decision. Don’t ask for opinions and get upset when you get them. 

Post # 13
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217 posts
Helper bee

Cry me a river….

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

elsa0984 :  as my Fiance would say… “Would you like some cheese with that whine?” At first him saying that made me wanna punch him in the face now I like it lol

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