(Closed) NWR: Santa

posted 10 years ago in Babies
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  • Post # 17
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I have encouraged my 7 year old to believe in Santa, but I’m pretty sure this will be the last year she will believe.  I don’t view it as a lie.  Kids come up with a lot of ideas on their own- who am I to crush her Christmas dreams?

    Post # 18
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

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    @UpstateCait: Omg, minus the taking down the Christmas tree thing, I basically had the same childhood stories! As soon as I could figure out that the wrapping paper was the same and the “To Bakerella, Love Santa” was written in my mom’s writing, I knew. I was also a huge snooper and my mom wasn’t the best at hiding (“Don’t look in my closet” so of course I’d go in her closet), lo and behold, what was in the Kmart bags showed up with a “love santa” tag on it ๐Ÿ˜‰  I was a kid, not stupid! LOL!

    I try to be a bit sneaky with my stepson and wrap his stuff in a “special” paper with Santas on it, nothing else gets that paper. He’s 4-1/2 now so he’s HUGE into Santa and likely this is the only year he’ll really believe, unless we get lucky and some big mouth in kindergarten doesn’t blab, maybe we’ll get another ๐Ÿ˜‰ I think it’s a fun tradition and I plan on doing the same with my own kids.

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    My husband and I are going to be telling our daughter that Santa isn’t real. It’s not the lie thing, but I hate how commercial Christmas has become, and I want her to enjoy the season without expecting a lot of presents. I have a lot of other personal reasons for not telling her. I don’t plan on banning Santa. I want to tell her about Saint Nicholas, and I love the Santa Clause movies, but she’ll know he’s not real.

    I personally don’t remember believing in Santa, so it’s not that I was crushed when I found out he wasn’t real.

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2007

    Luckily we have at least another year or two to figure this one out – Warren is only 4 mos and I’m not even wrapping his presents this year!

    I remember writing the letter and leaving it for Santa on Chritsmas Eve and waking up to find the letter he wrote back – squigglely hand writing.  Santa’s gifts were never wrapped they were just under the tree. I remember my parents convincing us Santa knew were we would be on Christmas morning so he’d deliver our presents to the Grandparents in WI ๐Ÿ™‚ Not sure when we figured out the truth.

    I’m leaning towards teaching our kids about the ‘legend’ of Santa Claus – and that some kids believe -but he’s not real. We’ll see.

    I’m totally trying to keep the commercialism and over abundance of toys out of Christmas and focus more on family time and traditions. Again – we’ll see!

     

     

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    For us, we’re Christian, so Christmas is a very religious holiday for us, but, we also want our kids to have fun and enjoy the fun aspect of Santa.  We plan on telling them that Santa is a fun part of Christmas, and if they think he’s real, whatev.

    I do, however, want to teach my children about the real Saint Nicholas and why the tradition got started.  December 6th was St. Nicholas Day and we put candy in my student’s shoes during nap time at the preschool where I teach and the kids LOVED it!

    Post # 22
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    Busy bee

    I’m a school teacher, so I have seen both viewpoints within the classroom.  I grew up in a family that “believes in Santa.”  My parents and grandparents grew up believing in Santa or Saint Nicholas and that’s a family tradition that I’d like to continue.  In the reality of life, I do believe in Saint Nicholas, as a Christian saint and I think it’s a fun tradition to remember his gift giving tradition.  I know that some people see the Santa tradition as very commercial, but for me… the commercial part is a result of families enjoying the grandest celebration of the year.  Santa’s just a little part of the celebration.  Jesus is the real reason for the Celebration.  Saint Nicholas gave gifts as a reflection of his faith, and is remembered for being a gift giver.  I want my kids to learn the joy of giving… and so I intend to give them the gift of Santa… gifts will be remembered as extra special, but I also intend to give the the chance to be Santa to others… whether it is to the Salvation Army bell ringer or the poor family down the street.  In my family, I also got the chance to be Santa for my parents… including stuffing their stockings and helping with the shopping…  I remember that my Dad told me early that we were being Santa for my Mommy long before I fully understood Santa.  I notice that the kids who don’t believe in Santa often respond in a way that is jealous of the other children’s joy and excitement about their Christmas celebration.  They tell…because they want others to be like them… but the reality is that they are feeling left out… they may know “the truth…but they see the excitement and fun of the other kids… so telling their facts is stealing the fun of the other kids… they don’t like that they have been excluded from that joy… but the bad thing is that instead of being able to tell their parents… hey we wish we could celebrate this differently… they take away from another family’s celebration.  I think if you aren’t going to celebrate with Santa… you need to know that your child needs to know that the other children who do celebrate with Santa will eventually know the facts… but their families have chosen to celebrate a different way, and that you do not wish other family celebrations to be disturbed. 

    Post # 23
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Eh, I find Santa pretty pointless. I’m torn between wanting our kids to understand reality, and being “that kid” in class that points out he isn’t real before all the other parents are ready to tell their kids. We’re leaning towards not raising them to believe though…

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My daughter believed in Santa until she just grew out of it. My parents encouraged our belief in Santa and when I got older I asked them why. I will share the explanation they gave me and I will also share it with my daughter when she ever asks.

    A child can’t really understand the concept of Jesus Christ as the Lord and Savior, or God up in heaven looking out for them. However, they can understand that if they are good and obey their parents and believe, good things will happen to them (albeit in the form of presents). It’s believing when there is no physical evidence of existence. It’s about having faith in something you can’t see, hear, or ever seem to stay up long enough to catch…and believe me…I tried when I was younger =) In short, my parents used Santa as a building block in our relationship with God. 

    Now the tooth fairy never came to our house…LOL. Can you imagine trying to keep up with teeth for 7 kids? 

    Post # 25
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    i’m surprised there are some people here going on about how they’d never “lie” to their kids like the whole santa thing is so horrible.  the point of it is giving kids something fun and magical to believe in and to deny them of that is kind of heartless. I don’t remember at what age I stopped believing but it was no big deal when i did finally figure it out.

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    @cbee: actually, you’re logic is backwards.  you would be plaguing them with disillusionment with that cynical attitude. believing in Santa encourages a kind of childhood joy that comes along with imagination and magic.  it would be sad for any kid to miss out on the excitement!

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My older sister told me Santa wasn’t real when I was 10! My parents did a pretty awesome job in keeping Santa as real as possible.  We would put out cookies and milk and write him a letter and he would ALWAYS write back and eat those cookies! I will always cherish those memories I had as a child. 

    I remember believing so much that I’m SURE I heard those reindeers on my roof! I also had this dream once that I saw Santa putting the presents under the tree, that for YEARS I was convinced it wasn’t a dream, but that I’d really seen him in person!

    Also, my mom took my sis and I to see the ‘real’ Santa at Macy’s in NYC every year..and when we would see the ‘other’ Santa’s at the Mall, my mom would say ‘They are just Santa’s helpers, the ‘real’ one is at Macy’s in Herald Square, and that’s the same Santa that’s in the Thanksgiving Day Parade”..lol..

     I will for sure tell my kids that Santa is real and hope that they will believe as long as I did =)

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I totally want my kids to believe in Santa! I remember when I thought he was real and thinking how amazing it was what with all the magic and elves making toys =) One year I asked for a Barbie car, it was the one present my dad was supposed to buy but he waited until the last min to buy it so I didn’t get it. Instead I got a really cool babytub/craddle set and a note from Santa apologizing for not making me a barbie car. I thought it was so AWESOME! I kept that note in my closet for awhile. It was also fun waiting up for santa and spreading rudolph food out. Those memories are some of my favorite from my childhood, I want my kids to have that. Also I once I found out I remember thinking, “Oh of course!” but it wasn’t tramatic or anything..

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee

    My kids believe in Santa. It’s hardly lying to my children, they already live in a world of make believe, and I wouldn’t even think to stifle their creativity and imagination.

    Post # 29
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    Blushing bee

    We don’t have kids yet, but my husband and I have already decided that we won’t be doing the whole Santa thing. I was raised with Santa and I think I just grew out of it, but I started to get annoyed when I knew he wasn’t real and adults continued to question me about what Santa brought me. I guess I felt like it was insulting my intelligence. And now I have a 10 yr old sister who still believes thanks to my dad and stepmom and I feel like I’m put in an awkward place by being forced to lie when I’m around. 

    My husband and his sister were told from the beginning that Santa wasn’t real and it didn’t seem to have any negative impact on them. I think kids will be excited no matter what so long as you’re giving them gifts and making them wait til Christmas morning to open them. 

    Some people really get into the whole Santa act (like my stepmom, who even leaves gifts “from Santa” for my grandma), which is fine, but it’s just not something I care to do. I’ll find other ways to make Christmas special for my kids without putting on an elaborate act.

    Post # 30
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My children will absolutly believe in Santa! I don’t think it is lying to them, it’s providing them with a magical time as children. I also really hope none of the kids who are told right away that santa isn’t real tell my kids…I realize lots of kids, myself included, find out in school, but if it happens in pre-school? Well I hope those who choose to tell their children he isn’t real also explain that many children believe in him and not to tell…

    I love Santa ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 31
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We’re trying to decide this ourselves.  I don’t want to take away any innocence, but I also don’t want Christmas to be overhyped.  I’m not sure how to make the decision.  Luckily, this year she’s too young to worry about it!

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