Post # 32
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Bumble bee
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Member6937 posts
Busy Beekeeper
- candy11
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
It sounds like she wants to grab attention, which at her age it is very likely. I would probably had said “Sorry, happy belated bday cousin” or something like that on fb especially if we get along/got along.
Post # 34
Member4494 posts
Honey bee
- adoc86
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
@SockJunkie – 1+
Veruca Salt is the perfect analogy!! “I want it now!”
Post # 35
Member1009 posts
Bumble bee
- Sweet_Tea
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
@gingerkitten: Honestly, if I had to acknowledge every cousin of mine’s 18th birthday, I would have to take like 3 weeks to track them all down! Granted, ‘you only turn XX once’ and all, but still, her behavior is that of spoiled child.
Hopefully one day she’ll learn that the world does not revolve around her, and when she realizes that her birthday is just another day to many people, maybe she’ll stop expecting attention/gifts/praise every year.
That being said, how about finding the least expensive thing on her housewarming registry to send along with the book? Or maybe a belated b-day card. 🙂
Post # 36
Member1144 posts
Bumble bee
- Captain013
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
I think it’s hilarious. Let us know if she post of fb about her belated book gift. Its good she learns that nobody REALLY cares about her birthday. Welcome to the real world kiddo.
Post # 37
Member2639 posts
Sugar bee
- gingerkitten
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
UPDATE!
I asked my mother about this, and she said that she sent a card saying happy birthday, signed from all of us (my mom, dad, sister, and myself), so I don’t know what she is complaining about. The aunts and grandparents in my family send cards very regularly for birthdays, so I find it hard to believe that more than one or two people didn’t acknowledge it. At least, they always send cards to me, often with a little money tucked inside, but I ALWAYS send a thank-you immediately. Maybe she never sent thank-yous and they decided to stop sending money? Perhaps that is what she is on about?
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As far as responses to my future enagement and registries:
I don’t care if my whole family acknowledges my engagement. I find that terribly unrealistic, and I know people have other things happening. As for registries: As I am not engaged quite yet, I haven’t made any final decisions, but my feeling is to either not register at all (SO and I have been living together for a couple of years) or to only register for a few things in purposely varying price ranges so as to not make people feel uncomfortable. But my point is, an 18-year-old high school grad does not need a $100 knife set and a $400 mixer.
I recognize that she may not have money for the essentials- in fact, I am fairly certain of this! However, why not just register for basics if you insist upon registering? At Target or Walmart or something similar? I would be more than happy to help her get some plates, cups, and silverware, but she has registered for high-end items, so I feel it is a little silly.
I’m glad some people find my reaction as humourous as I do! After some initial regret, I am happily awaiting any response there may be to this gift. Long story short, she is an adult now, so I am hoping to aid her in future interactions with others, attitude aside.
Post # 38
Member2639 posts
Sugar bee
- gingerkitten
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
Also- I think her mother will appreciate the book, because she loves vintage things (particularly victorian), so even if cousin doesn’t get it, I think her mother will think it’s a wonderful gift.
Post # 39
Member378 posts
Helper bee
- Ice_cream
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Lol I love this. People get so uptight these days, I normally hate passive aggressive things, but this is great!
Post # 40
Member123 posts
Blushing bee
- amaryllislee
- 8 years ago
I’m sorry, did she “register” for gifts for college??? Is this a thing now?! THAT seems like the height of inappropriateness. Maybe the book was a great idea…
Post # 41
Member2639 posts
Sugar bee
- gingerkitten
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
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at least in the part of the country i am from originally, people know college kids are hurting for cash, so practically everyone gives money for HS graduation anyway. Personally speaking, I came away with over $1,000 in cash from high school graduation- more than enough for the frugal homemaker to furnish themself with the basics in dishes, etc.
Post # 42
Member7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
- mrsSonthebeach
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
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There is a very real difference between what brides do and what your cousin did. Brides who register are not supposed to go around announcing the registry. Guests are supposed to find it on their own or inquire if they are interested in purchasing a gift. Your cousin has publicized her registry and made it known that she expects gifts from it.
Post # 43
Member2639 posts
Sugar bee
- gingerkitten
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
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Post # 44
Member2742 posts
Sugar bee
- sexymama118
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: County courthouse
She sounds like the typical entitled little brat to me. she’ll have a hard slap in the face when reality kicks in. i blame her and her parents…there r so many young ppl who feel like the world revolves around them and that everything should come easily…like the world should worship her. i think the book was a great idea…but knowing how she has behaved in the past..i doubt it’ll phase her. what she needs is a good talking to. some wise words to knock her down a few notches. what a spoiled brat!!!
Post # 45
Member804 posts
Busy bee
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