NWR: Shoes on or off

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Where do you stand?

    Shoes always off!

    Shoes on are ok only if it's a more formal event

    Shoes on all of the time.


  • Post # 76
    3188 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    We don’t require people to take off shoes, but we take ours off. One of my best friends is from a culture that takes off shoes, so she always removes hers. She’ll even bring slippers if she is staying awhile. Some people will take their shoes off when they see ours sitting by the door.

    Post # 77
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    I hate having to take my shoes off for a party. It’s one thing if it’s a casual dinner with family or a close friend, but if it’s a nice occasion my shoes are part of my outfit. I guess I never understood the problem of wearing shoes. That said, if there are shoes by the door and it’s obvious that’s what people do, or if I’m asked, I always remove them!

    Post # 78
    1174 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

    I don’t care either way if people keep their shoes on in my house. It’s pretty unusual in my circle to be asked to take your shoes off, it’s usually only people who have pale carpets. You tend to get some minor side-eye for insisting on shoes off. People will do it without complaint usually, but there tends to be the view that it’s a little excessive. Personally I generally don’t care either way, unless I’ve worn shoes with loads of laces which are a pain to get out of.

     Someone earlier mentioned this maybe being a common uk attitude – they could well be correct there.

    Post # 79
    901 posts
    Busy bee

    As a hostess, I want my guests to be as comfortable as possible, regardless of the occasion…so I leave it up to them. I personally don’t wear shoes around the house, but I also don’t have guests over often enough to worry about them getting my house dirty. Cleaning up after guests is a given, so an extra vacuum around the house because they kept their shoes on is nbd. 

    Can’t say I’ve ever been asked to leave my shoes on, but I’ve felt extremely put-off when asked to take my shoes off…especially when there are pets, or small children, or some other reason to question the cleanliness of the floor. It feels intimate in some kind of way, and if I’m not super close with the hosts then I’ll feel more awkward/uncomfortable. So I would never ask a guest leave their shoes at the door, unless they volunteer it. 


    Post # 80
    204 posts
    Helper bee

    My home, my rule. Everyone needs to take shoes off, we give guests brand new slippers to wear though. 

    Post # 81
    495 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2021 - City, State

    Yes, I do, I hate it when they track dirt in there. My fiance always thought it was a bit weird when I took off my shoes and insisted others did because he thought that was only a thing in Japan and he never saw someone from the US that insisted on doing it, but I do it because it is practical and I don’t have to worry about dirt.

    Post # 82
    2584 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Who’s bringing socks or slippers to a formal party? If it’s formal, then I’m not dressed to wear socks. Nor do I want a loner pair of slippers (reminiscent of bowling alleys & iffy loaner shoes) that are offered up. 

    Post # 83
    588 posts
    Busy bee

    if its an actual party, i would not be happy being asked to take my shoes off.

    informal gatherings or whatever, i’m fine either way.

    Post # 84
    238 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2021 - Concord, Ontario

    Shoes are always off at home. We will provide slippers 

    Post # 85
    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    I’ll start by saying we don’t actually enforce anything on our guests.

    For formal events I am happy for you to keep your shoes on – but we only host in warm weather so guests only come inside for the toilet and bathroom anyway. (I agree that it’s incredibly annoying to get all dressed up and then find out I need to remove part of my outfit.)

    But for dinners, visiting or get togethers it’s definitely shoes off. 
    I must say though that it’s kind of a moot point in our friend circle though… most of them are regularly barefoot 

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