Post # 1
So I’m totally fine speaking in many situations. I have plenty of experience. I actually really like public speaking when it’s with kids or professionals and it’s something I feel competent on.
However, when it comes to speaking in front of my peers… it’s another story. It’s not like I think horrible things – I’m usually confident when giving a class presentation or speaking about myself. Yet, when it comes time to stand up and talk, my heart races and I begin to physically shake – and it’s definitely easy to see. Then I begin to panic about the shaking, which of course makes it worse. It’s better when I have a podium or surface to hold onto and ground myself, but that isn’t always available, and oftentimes I must hold up objects (books, papers, manipulatives), which seems to exaggerate the visible shaking.
Anyway, I’m not sure why this happens to me, and it is very bothersome. Just yesterday I had to introduce myself to my cohort and share some objects that represent me, and I was a wreck! From the get-go I was shaking so badly. Now I find myself anxious about shaking during my read aloud next week.
Anyone else shake? Anyone else show their nervousness, but only in certain situations? How do you get past it?
TL;DR: In front of huge audiences, kids, and professionals, I love public speaking. When I have to speak in front of a class of my peers, I shake and have anxiety. How do I get past it?
Post # 3
Everyone on the Bee at this hour never ever gets nervous?!
Post # 4
I despise speaking in front of small groups. Hate it. I turn bright red and have at times had panic attacks.
In front of really, really large groups where I’m speaking o an audience I’m much less nervous than in a small group setting.
I don’t really have advice because I still deal with it. I know public speaking is a very common phobia.
ETA: one thing that has helped a little is just being aware of the fact that my anxiety is probably not nearly as obvious as I think it is.
Post # 5
@bowsergirl: I HATE speaking in front of my peers. If I’m teaching something or I know I have the “upper hand” in the situation, I’m good, otherwise, its a mess.
Have you heard of Toast Masters? It’s a group thats specifically for this kind of thing.. you can practice in front of others!
Post # 6
I get ervous in front of my peers and not always in big groups, just high pressure situations and I start to make weird sounds. Kind of like I have terets actually. I can not control them.
I love speaking too, so I get what you are saying. I do volunteer work where I do speak in large groups and it is fine, but in some (not all) interviews and certain presentations where I feel the most pressure I make these uncontrollable sounds.
Post # 7
@MrsWishyWashy: Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I do try to remind myself that it’s probably far more noticable to me than anyone else. And when I am able to steady myself on a surface, then I definitely believe my shaking isn’t obvious. But then with having to hold things up to present – way more visible! Although it still probably isn’t as bad as I feel it is.
@bbsoon2be: Yes, I have! I have actually done a small seminar with them before, and it was great! I learned a lot of tricks there that really helped me with general public speaking. The thought of joining a group is slightly terrifying since I think they tend to do small group and round table discussions, which is again the situation I do poorly in. Though it would be all the better I guess to practice! I will stay open to it.
@ThreeMeers: Ah, you understand me! It’s always nice to know I’m not the only one.