- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
So, my husband and I moved to Hawaii (he was posted here). Honestly I like it here, I like learning new things about the state and seeing things I never thought I would. I feel blessed to start our new married life in this new state. Here’s the thing.
There are family members I NEVER talk to, we don’t call to chat they never have been to my house when I lived at home nor did they know I got married until a bit after, that is how distant we are. It’s not just because of our distance but also because when I was going through so much crap in my youth, they were in a position to help but never did and when I was finally out of there they acted like it was all good when it wasn’t and made stupid lame excuses for why they sat by.Later on they made it clear they did not like my fiance until he joined the Army and then they acted like they liked him all along. My fiance doesn’t like them due to the way they treated me and him. We are now polite to the family but not close to one another and make a point of seeing each other only for Christmas.
Now, that I have moved here I am now getting Facebook messages of when will they be up for a visit. Um…what? First off, you wouldn’t come to my house when I lived nearby so what makes you think my house is a vacation place for you? Also and call me drunk if I’m wrong but isn’t it up to the HOST to invite? The one relative who did go to my wedding took it upon themselves to cause drama and pressure on everyone, never calls and has even said “Go on Biggest Loser” when I was 20 pds overweight but oh she/he HAS to stay in the guest house and I can show them around Hawaii. Um, I can’t stand you in my home state what makes you think my living in another state makes it better? She/he looked down on my fiance when she/he thought my fiance’s family was poor but when they found out that the family was well to do they acted totally shocked. Why would I want someone who looks down on my fiance’s family in MY house?