(Closed) NWR: The non apology

posted 8 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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861 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ok…couldn’t you have found a better/less offensive example of the “non-apology” concept you are trying to discuss?  I hardly would compare the racist lynching cartoon to WB situations that may warrant an apology. Be careful with this please!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I hate the non apology.

My Darling Husband and I have both been guilty of using non apologies during fights and we always call each other out about it! So they are not allowed in our house; however, I must admit it’s hard to apologize properly when you don’t think your wrong and sometimes you are just sorry that the other person is upset by what you did.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I must have been missing a ton of posts as I have seen alot of post like yours, but haven’t seen anything.  I do hate the non apology.  There are sometimes when you just need to agree to disagree.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Apologies are becoming more and more meaningless. And it’s a sad state of affairs.

I can understand why the newspaper didn’t want to apologize in a meaningful way. They don’t want to take the blame for a work that someone else did. They should be able to edit this before the paper hits the stands but they don’t because of ‘free speech’. I think they need to reevaluate their editing. Free speech can be detrimental to society just as well as it can help them. Depending on what the speech is.

The papers also know that they cannot admit to fault because then their news is no longer worthy of being read. I’ve heard this a lot while working in a call-centre AGES ago. One of the first things we were taught was not to admit that the business was by any means at fault. We were supposed to speak generically. And this is coming from Fortune 100 companies with billion dollar businesses. Not some jo-schmo. We were asked to downright lie. They called it ‘wording appropriately’ but anyone would know it’s a damn lie. Needless to say I didn’t last in this environment very long.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Amaryllis: So why does it feel like YOU are doing the whole non-apology thing right now? Saying that you gave a warning of the racist cartoon is supposed to validate that you HAD to use the racist joke as an example?  Why couldn’t you find something else to avoid possibly offending someone? 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@sueanddemetrius:

You’re making too big a deal about this. The article just used that particular illustration and the reactions to it to further explore the idea of the non-apology. In turn, the OP is using the article to illustrate the use of the non-apology in everyday life and on the boards. It’s not like she came on here saying, “I need to discuss racism and non apologies on the Bee today,” she just saw an article that she applied to her real life. She warned it was an offensive cartoon; if you’re that sensitive to it, maybe you shouldn’t have clicked the link.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@sueanddemetrius: are you serious right now or are you just trying to get the thread off track?

@Amaryllis: I’ve noticed this as well – as if putting a disclaimer gives people the right to run at the mouth with whatever they think of (not just on here, MOST girls on here have the awareness not to).

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ohheavenlyday: Seriously? So that article is a great example of the Non-apology and every day life?

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sueanddemetrius: May I asked why you clicked on a link that you were warned had a racist and offensive cartoon, that you had no obligation to look at, and then came back here to complain that the cartoon (that you knew was offensive and choose to view anyway) was offensive?

@Amaryllis:  Thanks for posting this, I have seen some of this on WB and plenty of it out in the real world.

ETA:  No, I’m not trying to start a fight, I’m just curious why you would voluntarily view offensive content and then complain that it is, in fact, offensive.

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