Post # 1
I am conducting this survey for my own personal reasons. Darling Husband and I just returned from our second family vacation with his family, and somewhere around day 2, I firmly decided we’d never be doing that again. Hell, I love my own family to death, but you will not catch me dwelling with them for a whole seven days! I feel the same about DH’s family.
Share your stories with me! I wanna hear family-vacation horror stories, and family vacation happy stories, if you have any. Explain why you do or don’t travel with his/your relatives.
Post # 3
We go camping with his family every summer. I love it, they’re fun.
ETA: We also take vacations just the two of us.
Post # 4
Both, we beach with his family, and go abroad with my family. And we also travel on our own quite often, as well.
Post # 5
I didn’t have an option to pick in the poll.
We don’t travel with family annually but we do every now and then, but we typically travel alone!
Post # 6
In the seven and a half years we have be together we have been on more vacations with my family than alone. We throroughly enjoy going on vacation with my parents because they let us have our alone time. I would NEVER go on a vacation that lasted more than a weekend with the future in laws. His mother would try to plan out something for every minute of the day, she would want answered to about what we are doing and it would be the same thing every day, go shopping and eat.
Post # 7
We don’t have any hard rules about this. We’ve gone toHawaii with his whole family for aNother family members wedding and are looking in to traveling to Mexico with my family just for a trip. We typically travel alone and don’t have any standing trips but are open to it of they’re going somewhere we want to go at a convenient time.
Post # 8
Neither of our families really do big family vacation things. My family has always gone to our summer cabin on a lake, but since I was maybe 17 or 18 I’ve been going alone with friends, not with the family (unless it was with my brother and our friends). SO did go with me once to the cabin when we were first dating, 5 years ago, but only because it was come with me or don’t see me that weekend. Being long distance back then he chose to come with. Since then we’ve been doing our own thing.
Post # 9
We just went on vacation with his family for a week…and it was soooooo stressful. His mom rented a house in the Outer Banks, and invited all of us. That means: his parents, his three siblings and their SOs, two children (ages 4 and 7 months), three dogs (one trained, two not), and a cat. His parents are sort of separated, so they had to sleep in their own rooms. Each took a room with the biggest beds. Then the married couple with kids got their own bedroom with an attached bathroom. His crazy younger brother and his 18 year old girlfriend, plus their two untrained dogs, got the entire downstairs. That left me and SO, and my best friend and her boyfriend, sharing two rooms that each had twin beds. So it was cramped.
His mom is SO DEMANDING. Every second has to be nagging someone to do something. His family is extremely passive aggressive, too. For example…I made myself a sandwich and sat at the table to read while eating it. This is something I do all the time. People came and sat next to me, and I continued to read. His mom was like, “When I was little, reading at the table would have gotten you in trouble.” So I put away the book. Then his brother was like, “Remember when people used to take their hats off inside?” and Bill (my best friend’s boyfriend) took off his hat. They put a note on the fridge saying that only certain people had helped out when everyone, in fact, had.
UGH. I can’t even explain how annoying it was.
Post # 10
We do both. We take trips on our own but also tend to take like one trip with family. Honestly, we just travel with my Dad and his Fiance because they are both really into traveling and fun to hang out with. We even have plans already to go to Jamaica with them again next year and for other stuff we all want to do in the future.
We went to Jamaica with them in March and had a blast (even though my Dad seems to think its hilarious to get Fiance really drunk). We tend to have the same ideas about what we all want to do as well, so it works out.
We’re DINKs right now and my Dad and his Fiance (while they both have their own kids) have adult children and the money and want to travel, so we travel together. It’s nice to have people to travel with to be honest.
Post # 11
We travel alone, we’ve traveled with friends, and we have a yearly standing week-of-my-birthday-and-4th-of-July beach week with my parents at my family’s beach house. We never vacation with DH’s family (they don’t vacation, come to think of it). can’t say I’m disappointed about that.
Post # 13
@peachacid: oh YIKES. Ugh, I have a list of reasons why I am NOT SAD that we don’t and wouldn’t vacation with my IL’s.
Semirelated: YAY Outer Banks!! That is my 2nd home. We’ve had a house in Nags Head for 12 years. Before that we would stay in Hatteras, Frisco, Buxton, or Avon. I hope you had a GREAT time (company excluded) because it’s gorgeous there.
Post # 14
I changed the poll so everyone could answer. Let me know if there are more options that need to be on there.
DH and I went on a weekend trip with his parents in February and we had an awesome time. So, I would not mind travelling with them again. Just them. But, when you start mixing his siblings and the kids in, it just gets to be far more stress than relaxation. We’ve decided to wait and enjoy our marriage a little while before having kids. We can’t afford to take more than one big vacation every year. So, if every big vacation is spent with DH’s family, then it is spent dealing with and taking care of kids. Also, you’ve got way too many opinions going on at one time. Everybody has a certain food gripe, so it is almost impossible to agree on any one meal to cook. Everyone wants to fight over who gets what room. It’s just so much more stress-free for everyone to rent their own place and meet up for family activities, IMO.
Post # 15
We do a camping trip with my parents and sometimes my brothers usually once a summer. Sometimes we are on the same campsite and sometimes we have different sites.
And other times we travel together for out of town weddings or family reunions. We stay at the same hotel (different rooms, lol).
Post # 16
We go to the Virgin Islands with my family every year, it is wonderful! Its a very laid back trip though.