Post # 1
I am a huge advocate for therapy, couples counseling, etc. and I see many Bees recommend it, on the boards. However I am curious how many Bees have actually gone to couples counseling, individual therapy, etc?
I am currently attending counseling regarding issues I have with my family, and it has been very helpful and insightful. I went several years ago, when I struggled with insecurity and jealousy from abusive relationships. It helped immensely.
You don’t have to comment if you don’t feel comfortable, I am just curious if a large number of Bees have gone, or just recommend it because they have seen it work for others, etc.
Post # 2
Therapy has saved my life, on multiple occasions, for an array of reasons as I walked the miles of my life, since I was 12. I will always recommend it to those experiencing crisis because of my positive experiences with counseling, whatever flavor it may be.
Post # 3
Therapy was an immense help to me, and I found it surprisingly helped with things other than (as well as, not instead of) the reason I initially sought help.
I recommend it for that reason: I know how effective it can be. I also know how terrifying it is to go to a therapist and I myself would never have gone if I hadn’t been pushed (by an ex who I had just started seeing at the time).
Another reason I recommend it, aside from knowing how effective it can be, is I know how complicated things are.. how difficult it is to convey an entire picture over a message board. It’s so important to get context. For that reason, I often recommend therapy just because I feel that the OP needs to talk to a human, in person, in detail, if they want good advice. “Talk to a friend” or “talk to your mom” or something obviously is bad advice in those situations, because if they could they probably wouldn’t be on the forum in the first place.
Post # 4
I went to a therapist for marriage counseling with my exH and continued in individual counseling after he got kicked out. It helped me to process grief from the loss of some family members and address other issues with my family, with my marriage, and with myself and to develop coping strategies for dealing with a special needs child.
I recommend it because I believe it can be incredibly helpful to anyone open to exploring their situation, choices, options…sometimes just even saying something out loud to an objective listener is enough to know that it doesn’t make any sense and adjustments need to be made.
Post # 5
I went as a kid when my parents got divorced and remarried. At the time I was VERY resistant to it (typical kid) and so I obviously didn’t find it that helpful. As an adult, I think it can be a great thing. I think way too many people try to handle problems on their own when really they should be seeking outside counsel from an unbiased 3rd party.
I can say having been struggling with TTC and recently going through a loss…..those first two weeks after I didn’t know if I’d get through and seriously considered going to see someone. It has gotten much better, but I do know my limitations and as we continue on this journey I hope we have success quickly. If we don’t and are dealt more losses or bad news I will 100% see a therapist. It’s A LOT of emotional baggage to handle on your own. I fully admit (and talked through with a friend who listened) right after our loss that I felt resentful of my Darling Husband…because we’d waited so long to start trying (because he travels for work all the time). I know that many couples who struggle with infertility divorce from the stress. I don’t want to be one of them so at the first sign of struggle I will go.
Post # 6
jimonabee89 : Therapy has helped me a great deal in the past year and we have gone to a few sessios together when the issues i was dealing with were spilling into our relationship and we needed help getting control of that and it has helped a lot. If we ever are faced with issues again we will go to therapy.
Post # 7
I’ve been going off and on for 12 years. It was the best decision I have ever made.
You seriously get to know yourself and find out why you react the way you do.
It’s an amazing resource for self improvement
Post # 8
I started going when I was 6 years old. My baby sister, who was two at the time, was molested by a neighbor’s uncle and my whole family attended therapy for years trying to come to terms with what that did to us.
Then when I was depressed in high school I saw my own therapist for ~3 years. Again in college (up to twice a week, then finally down to once a month to manage meds) since then I’ve just consistently had one since I graduated college.
I see my current therapist every other week.
Post # 9
I honestly think most people should do it. I went by myself when I went through a bad breakup in my 20s. Now I see a psychiatrist who Rxes and also does talk therapy. Me and Darling Husband went for couples counseling before we got married. My Darling Husband also has gone by himself every other week since his previous marriage broke up.
Post # 10
Yes, as an individual. I love my sessions and I think more people should give it a go. Sometimes just being able to sit and rant for an hour is all you need to let go of stress, other times they can provide really valuable insight and helpful tools. The key is to find someone you click with though, or it doesn’t work.
Post # 11
I was in individual therapy briefly when I was a minor. I wouldn’t say it was effective but by my own fault not the therapist’s. I was instructed not to share and told what lines to provide by a guardian. I’m sure it could have been beneficial had I given it the means to be.
That said, I’ve just arranged to begin individual therapy again for the first time since then with the intention of being able to finally talk freely. I feel positive about the decision overall…scared as is normal with things so personal but overall positive.
I don’t think someone has to have been in therapy to know it’s benefits. I follow a lot of sources related to psychology/mental health education and enjoy expanding my knowledge by reading material from professionals in the fields of interest to me. I’ve known others that it was absolutely vital to as you also pointed out. So, I do not personally feel wary of recommending it even if I have yet to personally benefit from it yet. I have encountered negative mental health professionals but I still see the merit in it because you have bad professionals in every field. It absolutely shouldn’t stop anyone from trying again until they can find someone that is the right fit.
Post # 12
I was forced to go as a kid (my crazy mother tried to create problems where there were none), and the therapist was irresponsible and unprofessional. I’ve had friends go to therapists that said and did messed up stuff to them as well. I think practicing self-analysis will help you become more self-aware and have a higher EQ, and you won’t need to use a therapist or drugs to know yourself and get over your own issues. I think it probably does help sometimes if you have a good therapist, but therapy is too often used as a crutch. You need to learn to handle your own problems, imo.
Post # 13
I went when I was considering leaving my ex husband. I had so much guilt for leaving bc although I knew it was best for me, I knew it was going to destroy him. The guilt was unreal. Still one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.
I am a counselor though, so I believe counseling can benefit everyone.
Post # 14
I have gone and honestly I did not find it useful. But it was worth a try I guess. It was good to tell someone my story but he did not offer any insights or help except extremely obvious things I already knew. I would still recommend it if someone has no one to talk to or has exhausted the patience of their friends and family.
Post # 15
I think it’s important to note that not all therapists are created equal and sometimes you have to try out a few before you find the right fit. Therapists also represent many different philosophies and may have specific specialties.
If you are considering therapy for the first time do your homework, understand the therapist’s approach and how it fits with your personal goals and don’t be afraid to interview until you find the right individual.