(Closed) NWR- This is so weird to me.

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why is this bothering you? Can you not let it be an issue between the two of them?

I would just stay out of it.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

FCIL’s a jealous, spoiled brat so i’d stay out of it and not make waves – they’re going to be doing enough of that on their own. just thank your lucky stars that you aren’t the cray-cray one.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think it’s a little strange. Does it bother you because FCIL says things to you about how much the Future In-Laws are giving for your wedding? Does it bother you for another reason?

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow, how freaking obnoxious! I agree with PPs but totally get the need to vent. But next time she made a comment about how much they’re helping with your wedding, I’d totally say, “Well, your parents helped with your wedding…our parents are helping with ours. My aunts, on the other hand, are not contributing. So I think that makes us more than even.”

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Umm wow, that is very strange. It would drive me nuts to. I think that @Wonderstruck: makes a good point in how you respond to her. The next time she compares, remind her that she is your fi’s parents and not hers. If she says something, then call her out on the fact that she herself says the exact same thing. Have you had any contact with her parents? how do they respond to this?

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsSl82be: Yep, totally, I would just call her out on it every time. Well, maybe not in front of Future Mother-In-Law, who it seems started this whole stupid problem in the first place. If she makes a snide comment about you guys going out to eat or a grandchild being taken out, I’d say, “Well, I know there are times that she goes out to eat with you and not us/takes out your daughter and not her other grandchildren/whatever too.” And if necessary add something about how you don’t feel the need to keep score because it really sets a bad example for the kids, they’ll never learn about sharing if they think every time Future Mother-In-Law does something for someone else she has to take them along or get them something too.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would call this a family situation where it’s just better to back out of the room slowly, avoiding eye contact, and shut the door as you go… : 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I loathe dealing with people who have a sense of entitlement like your FCIL. I do not envy you!!!

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