(Closed) NWR: Unsolicited financial advice for friend

posted 12 years ago in Money
  • poll: Can I give her advice?

    Absolutely not

    don't dance around it, just tell her

    subtly tell her some tips

  • Post # 3
    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2020

    This is a tricky subject, especially these days! How to approach it depends on how close you two are — are you "no holds barred" best friends? It also depends how sensitive she is about this kind of stuff — some people like to talk about money, and other people don’t. You might find that she actually wants to talk about it, especially if it’s something that’s stressing her out. Since you both know that she hasn’t paid for her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, is it hanging around like the elephant in the room?

    I’m sorry I’m not being more helpful! I guess it all boils down to what you think she’d be comfortable with. Perhaps you could bring up your own financial situation and see how she responds?

    Good luck!

    Post # 4
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    IF she mentioned the CC thing to you, she must be pretty stressed out and somewhat open to talking about it.  You can just kindly offer to talk about it if she wants – open the door and see if she is interested!  "I noticed you mentioned your CCs are maxed out.  I am sure that is really stressful – do you want to talk about it? Maybe I can help you think of some good solutions?"

    Post # 5
    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would definitely approach with a non-judgemental "Here’s what I’ve learned" attitude.  Make her feel like you’re in it together.

     Maybe you can even start a smart chicks club a la Miss Meatball!

    Post # 6
    136 posts
    Blushing bee

    I agree with Janna19… If she weren’t willing to talk about it, I do not believe that she would have mentioned it.  I would definitely open the door to the conversation and depending on her reaction, I would decide how to share the information. 

    Also, if you do not mind share a few of your tips and tricks on here.  I am sure that there are several bees that will find it useful!

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