(Closed) NWR: Vent… It’s not everyone else’s responsibility to outfit your nursery!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow, $200+ for bedding that will be pooped, peed, and thrown up on? Seems like a pretty big waste of money to me.

Hang in there – it’s almost over!!! Just remember if you ever have kids, you get to be chilled out and more responsible about it 🙂

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@UpstateCait:  Yikes!  What a nightmare.  I sure hope everything goes smoothly for you tomorrow and you can put them annoying mess behind you!  Good luck 🙂

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@UpstateCait: yikes! my parent’s definitely didn’t do that for me…actually we didn’t have one gift purchased off our baby registry! But we are actually fine with that. I enjoyed buying everything we needed and nesting…although your FIL’s are just trying to be helpful/thoughtful, it does sound a bit ridiculous.

And to your FBIL–eff you! You’ve worked hard on something special for her and he has the audacity to say that!?

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I have to agree with a lot of pp’s-what your Brother-In-Law said was pretty ungrateful and rude and Id have been hugely offended after spending the time and money on the shower that you have.  If I-a stranger who only knows what youve put in the on what you have posted on the boards-can see how much you have done, then he clearly can too.  And if he doesnt appreciate that, screw him.  I DO agree with your position that your Future Mother-In-Law shouldnt feel obligated to finish off the registry-but I see WHY she did.  I can tell you that DH and I finished off what we thought was necessary from our own registries and did not expect anyone else to do so for us.  Our baby, our responsibility.  But our parents DID offer to help because there are just so many expenses.  We declined, but still.  Like you said, I doubt it would have bothered you so much had Future Brother-In-Law not made that comment.  Im still shocked he seems so ungrateful.  What an ass

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have noticed that pPeople are really abusing registries these days. They put all kinds of stuff on it that they will never really use. In fact, these items also come handy for ‘re-gifting’. It’s despicable!

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I kinda think that’s the in laws business if they would like to buy their children the stuff needed to raise a baby. I find it very weird you’re so involved in that decision. I know for a fact my non well off mother would do the exact same thing for me. I believe that’s what parents are for. I plan to do the same for my children when they have a baby on the way. I would LIKE to help out as much as possible…

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

How did you get roped into co-hosting the shower if you aren’t that close to FSIL?  Did you offer?  Hoping to be closer?  I know you’ve talked about the baby shower before so I apologize if you’ve covered that question already.  I would never do it if I thought they wouldn’t be appreciative.  I am not selfless that way. 

Does Future Sister-In-Law feel the same way as FBIL?  That just sounds like a guy thing to say.  Sometimes I don’t think they “get” our girly parties. 🙂

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

OP- I feel your pain. I recently went to a baby shower for one of FI’s cousins and it felt like a gift grab at the end. After the party, the husband came in to help bring the presents to the car and they were like tallying off what they got and didn’t get but in a way that was not very nice.

They also kept commenting on they needed cash…less than a year after their wedding at which they asked only for cash… in my head I was thinking, “Ok seriously, how much have spent on you two in the past year….?? Just be happy”

If you’re going to receive a shower (baby or bridal)…at least act grateful! Nothing is worse than being a gift-giver and not feeling appreciated.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, your Future Brother-In-Law obviously has no clue.  You’ve done SO much.  And your FIL’s, too!  The shower will be beautiful.  Also, I think the parents get a certain percentage (20%) or something like that for items that were not purchased off the registry so that THEY can purchase anything else they need at a discount!  And they should be prepared to buy everything when you are going to have a baby! I agree!

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

love those!!! So cute!

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Aw those are cute! Good for you for going through with it with a smile on your face. It’s almost over!

My pet peeve on baby registries? Breastfeeding equipment. I get that it is natural, healthy, wonderful, etc., but as a mere casual acquaintance of the expectant mom, I am really not comfortable buying nipple shields, cracked nipple cream and breast pumps! (And inevitably these are the only things left for procrastinators like me!)

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