(Closed) NWR: Weird question…are pedophiles gay?

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Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I see where you are coming from because no Gay’s are not pedophiles and to compare them is just plain wrong. However there can be pedophiles who are gay (meaning they don’t like girls) just as there are straight pedophiles (who go after the opposite sex). I think it is because of the fact that Gay’s have been stereotyped so much in the past we automatically think people assume gay’s and pedophilia come hand in hand. Which is completely untrue. So in a sense, yes we should seperate the terms but I don’t think in your case that it was said to mean gay’s are all like that.

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

A pedophile is a person who likes children. Why does it need to be linked to being gay?

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@les105:  

My mom was the same way. And no I would not leave my child alone with a stranger.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@peachacid:  I’m not making that assumption, my mom & most of my friends’ moms felt that way growing up, so I was under the impression that many parents feel this way, and it’s the same thought process that leads to people not wanting homosexuals to lead boy scout groups, rather than your assertion that people do this because they believe homosexuals are inherently more capable of pedophilia than heterosexuals. I don’t know anyone who feels this way, but I know many people that are mistrusting of leaving their female children alone with males who are not family members.

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@peachacid:  Actually, most pedophiles are heterosexual.  Pedophiles can be homosexual as well, but it’s more rare.

And no, pedophilia is unrelated to being gay.  You are a pedophile if you are attracted to children 13 years and younger, regardless of what gender they are.

Post # 37
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

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@Saloria83:  Actually, pedophiles who are gay don’t like women, not girls. Technically, terms like homosexual, heterosexual, gay, and lesbian are not applied to the pedophilial inclinations of the pedophile, only to that person’s adult relationships.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@mrsSonthebeach:  Well the actual definition of being ‘gay’ is someone who prefers sexual intercourse with that of the same sex and of course the original term which just meant happy. I think we as a society choose not to use the term in the case of pedophilia because pedophilia itself doesn’t claim a gender. It is just a term for an adult who sexually violates a child.

Post # 39
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Blushing bee

In my opinion, pedophiles do what they do for the fear and power, and it’s not a part of sexuality.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would never use the word “gay” to describe a male pedophile who targets boys – as others have said pedophilia is its own class of “sexuality.” If I were attracted to 8 year old boys (ugh for even writing that), I would not consider that to fall under the same umbrella as my actual sexual orientation towards adult men – that strikes me as ludicrous. Children don’t have the secondary sexual characteristics that mark adults (and post-pubescent teens) as being sexually attractive to potential mates. A preference for pre-pubescent children is something different entirely.

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree that pedophilia is completely different from sexual orientation.  Two things about Sandusky specifically though:

1) He said he’s attracted to children, regardless of gender

2) Despite that statement, he had a number of adopted children, including a daughter, so he did have access to at least one young girl (one of his adopted sons has said he was molested). Also, he sought out chances to be around young boys (started a foundation/charity for young boys, coached a boys’ team at a high school, etc.)

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Pedophiles are just disgusting people, I’m not sure that they are human. 

Post # 43
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Busy bee

Do not confuse pedophilia with homosexuality.

The attraction to a child (male or female) has nothing to do with homosexuality. I agree with LadyBear.

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