(Closed) NWR: Were you taught to believe in Santa?

posted 6 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Were you taught about Santa? How did it affect you?
    yes, my parents taught me about Santa, no negative affects(explain) : (248 votes)
    75 %
    yes, my parents taught me about Santa, some negative affects(explain) : (21 votes)
    6 %
    no, I was not taught about Santa, no negative affects(explain) : (43 votes)
    13 %
    no, I was not taught about Santa, some negative affects(explain) : (5 votes)
    2 %
    my answer is not available(please explain) : (15 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 77
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @BushelAndAPeck:  I wasn’t “taught” about Santa per se. It was something though that my parents let us believe until we were ready to question it. Religion was a big part of my upbringing so growing up, there was absolutely no doubt that Christmas was about the birth of Jesus and NOT about Santa.

    Post # 78
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

    I was taught to believe in Santa but my brother was the one to tell me that he wasn’t real.  As a result, I remember feeling very angry that my entire family had been lying to be.  I was embarassed (even as a kid) that they must think I was stupid.  

    I don’t plan on telling my kids about Santa.  Rather, I think there is a much more valuable lesson in the kindness of real people being generous to each other.  It actually seems much more valuable than a magical force gifting things.

    Post # 79
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i’m jewish so i knew santa and the easter bunny weren’t real.

    my mom tried to get my to believe that the tooth fairy was real but that didn’t work,

    i wrote the tooth fairy a note, got a note back in my mom’s hand writing.  her explanation, the tooth fairy didn’t have time to write and she told me what to say.

    next time i left a penny for the tooth fairy, checked the date before i put it under my pillow.  next morning the penny was on the kitchen table. my mom tried to explain that the tooth fairy didn’t want to take money from me so she left it.

     

    Post # 80
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @This Time Round:  +100000

     

    Oh how I miss the magical days of Christmas with Santa. It was always so exciting to try to stay up and try to catch him, even though my mom said he knew if we were awake and wouldn’t come til we fell asleep. I remember lying in bed watching out the icy windows up into the sky trying to catch a glimpse of him. And I remember waking up oh-so-early to see what he brought us (our Santa gifts were always unwrapped).

    I still love Christmas because it’s a time with family, but it’s not the same as it was when I was a kid. I can’t wait to have kids so I can share a little of that magic with them.

    Post # 81
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I was raised to believe in Santa. I remember a nasty little boy told me, when I was like 6, that santa wasn’t real, but I didn’t believe him. I eventually figured it out when I was older, but it was a gradual realization and it did not scar me or traumatize me at all. Even when we were dirt poor, my extended family (I  later learned) made sure we had presents Christmas morning… I was SURE Santa was real for that fact alone. Eventually when I was 10 or 11, my dad would have me do all the Christmas shopping (long story, it was just me, my dad and little brother), so I pretty well had it figured out by then that there wasn’t a Santa..lol

    What I struggled with more was the fact that in Church, I was taught that Christmas was when Jesus was born… when it really wasn’t. That I found more difficult to reconcile, and for a few years in my teenage life, I strayed from my Christian beliefs because of it. I did feel very … betrayed in a sense.

    Essentially, Christians stole the holiday of “Yule” (where most of these Christmas traditions stem from to begin with), in order to convert pagans… yeesh. Now THAT is what bothered me for years…not that Santa wasn’t real. lol 

    Of course, I have gotten over than, and my full understanding of WHY and HOW we celebrate Christmas, gives me a better appreciation of the holiday.

    Anyways. I think that kids don’t need to be told by their parents that santa is not real. They eventually find out through peers, and may ask their parents…so then the parents can have that little talk… but breaking that belief before then, just seems so cruel.

    I have heard of now grownups refusing to include Santa in their Christmas festivities because of the trauma it put them through to learn that their parents had lied to them about Santa, etc. Seems a little exteme, but to each their own.

    I have a now 2 year old, and she will get all the joy and fun of Santa, the tooth fairy AND the easter bunny 🙂 hehe  It just adds to the magic of childhood!

    Post # 82
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I figured out there was no Santa when I was about 4 years old and opened up pajamas my mom had purchased in July WHEN I WAS WITH HER. she said she’ll never remember my sad little face saying “you’re santa???” but it had zero negative impact on my life. and now it’s a funny story. i’m 29 now and about 2 years ago was the first time my parents didn’t give us “Santa” gifts and me and my 31 year old brother were both pissed. haha.

    we also had Binky & Elmer, elves that visited us on Christmas Eve. When we got to be too old for them, we started doing it for the neighbour’s kids and it was so fun because even the parents didn’t know who was leaving these gifts from “Binky & Elmer”.

    Our kids will have elves & Santa as long as humanly possible!

    Post # 83
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I was taught to believe in Santa and just figured out he wasn’t real when I got older. My parents never told me he wasn’t real. Pretty sure my dad still writes “from Santa” on some of my presents. I mean, the man wrote “from Chuckles” on some of my presents…Chuckles was my cat.

    Post # 84
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Kukahiko Estate

    We talked about Santa….even left out cookies and milk for him.  But I recall I pretty much always knew that it was my mom and dad that ate the cookies and brought presents.  

    We generally opened presents specifically from mom and dad on Christmas Eve, then “Santa” would bring an extra special few on Christmas Day.  It was basically just an encore of presents lol.

    Post # 85
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @BushelAndAPeck:  Taught to believe, no negative effects. I have an older sister and a younger one. We learned pretty quickly that Santa wasn’t real, but I don’t remember when. To this day my mom likes to pretend Santa is real; I think its because she doesn’t want to admit we’re all adults now. Lol!

    Post # 86
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m not really too sure how to respond here in terms of the poll, but I was raised in a non-religious household where we had Santa.  But I don’t think I was ever truly aware of who/what Santa or Christmas really represented until years later (I’d say I was….7? 8? by the time I really knew?)

    Post # 87
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    1955 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My mum always kept the whole Santa thing going, even when my jackass of a dad tried to crush the spirit. Everytime he tried to tell us Santa wasn’t real, mum would tell us more stories to keep the magic alive. There was a time he threatened to throw me through the windscreen in the car if I didn’t stop believing in Santa. I was a firm believer until I was 11, when mum was in the shower and shouted the truth to me through the bathroom door. When she got out I asked her why she fought so hard to keep the magic alive, only to just tell me like that. She wanted us to have a magical childhood because she didn’t. After that, we spent the last year of her life (unbeknownst to any of us) planning the best Christmas ever.

    My husband and I were inspired to talk about this by this post. We’ve both agreed that we’re telling our kids Santa’s real until they’re 10-11. They were the ages of when we both found out. Christmas is my favourite holiday of the year, and I always get really into it. Despite everything that happened in my childhood, Christmas was the one thing that really made my childhood special.

    Post # 88
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    We all believed in Santa growing up (meaning my parents’ 5 children). It didn’t do us any harm to find out the truth and the years it was “real” made the subsequent tears worth it. 

    Post # 89
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I believed in Santa for a long time, like until I was 12. My parents never told me he wasn’t real, I just got old enough to realize that he’s not. I do remember arguing with some friends that the easter bunny was real (they believed in Santa but not the Easter bunny, it was weird).

    We never got big gifts from Santa either though, our stockings were just from him. And even now my parents still do stockings, and Darling Husband and I are doing them for each other this year.

    Post # 90
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    Helper bee

    Yes, my parents taught me to believe, and I think that I believed for long after they thought I would.  When I was 12, I woke up to use the bathroom, and I found my brother putting together a Barbie van for me (yes, at 12 I still played with Barbies).  I asked him what he was doing, and he said he was helping Santa.  I knew that wasn’t true, and that was when I figured things out.  It wasn’t traumatizing for me or anything.  I appreciate the idea of Santa, and in a way, I still believe in him.

    Post # 91
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    Buzzing bee

    I don’t think kids are really messed up by being told there is a Santa. I think they get upset over their parents just one day telling him that someone amazing that he’s been made to believe in is suddenly no longer real. That can be quite shocking for someone under ten. My parents always told us that there was a Santa, but they never sat us down and told us there wasn’t one. We eventually each found out around 7 or 8 that there isn’t a Santa. My older sister kept it fun for me when I was younger by going along with it, and I did the same for my younger sister. I just think it’s a fun thing. My SO is totally against telling our future children that there is a Santa. He just said it’s pointless to lie to them about it. 

     

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