(Closed) Nwr what does it mean when your sibling likes you as a sibling but not as a

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Ap2010:  Ehh, to me that would mean that she only likes you as a sibling/family, but otherwise would not consider you a friend.

Neither my sisters consider me a friend, nor I them. We’re sisters, and when we get together we’re not at each other’s throats or anything, but we’re extremely different and have very little in common. I don’t DISLIKE my sisters, they just aren’t really my friends. We are, however friendly with each other, and enjoy our time together, but no, not friends in that sense. I don’t hang out with them like I do my friends, I don’t make plans with them like I do my friends, I don’t go on vacations with them like I do my friends. My sisters, however, do consider themselves friends,  best friends actually, and they do a LOT of stuff together – but for me, I’m not like them and don’t enjoy the things they do.

BUT I would never ever tell them that I don’t consider them a friend. Both my sisters told me that they liked me as a sister, but weren’t really my friend, and it hurt. At the time I thought being sisters and being friends went hand in hand. This was like 10 years ago, and while I’ve come to really realize that as adults we are nothing alike, and certainly not friends, it still hurts that they thought it was okay to tell me that. Personally, I think it’s in poor taste to tell someone “I’m not your friend” when they’ve not really done anything to warrent that statement.


Post # 4
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I am in the same situation with my sisters as the PP is. I love my sisters, but we aren’t friends. Not in the slightest. They are really close, best friends really, but I haven’t been able to foster the same kind of friendship with them. I moved overseas, didn’t join the military and decided to keep living abroad. Those three right there have pretty much guaranteed that I’m not friends with my sisters. We actually did fight like cats and dogs growing up, but get along better now. If we’re all together though, I still feel like the outsider. It’s not nice to be told that though, referring to the OP. Try not to dwell on it too much, but know that he or she still has your back, because that’s what family is.

Post # 5
1119 posts
Bumble bee

Ouch why would she put that on fb?? 

She only sees you as a sister someone she has to associate with and not as a friend. 

I am bestfriends with my baby sister because she looks up to me and adores me but i wouldnt even consider my two brothers friends. Growing up as kids we were but as we’ve become adults  we’ve grown apart. My older brother is a selfish immature person and my younger bro is super sweet but too consumed with his life and gf to give anyone the time of day or have any friends. 

Post # 6
8572 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It means you are just relatives, not friends.

Post # 7
11265 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

to me it would mean that she cares for you as a sister but the two of you don’t share enough in common to hang out on a regular basis.

i’m the same with my sisters but i am very close with my brother and we enjoy hanging out.  i would consider him a good friend.

Post # 8
4501 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It means if you weren’t related, and met, she would not want to be friends with you. Which sucks, obviously.

Post # 10
410 posts
Helper bee

I think that may mean that they love you because you are family, but if you were not related they probably would not be friends with you. That ow old be so heartbreaking and upsetting to hear!

Post # 13
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I dont think a sane person sends that message out via facebook.  A sane person would not volunteer this, unless pressured for social commitment.

Post # 15
2673 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@Ap2010:  well, it sounds like you feel the same way she does, so there shouldn’t be an issue 

Post # 16
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@Ap2010:  I feel that way about my sisters. I love them, support their decisions in life, and would give them a kidney if they needed it. . . but if we weren’t related I probably wouldn’t choose them as friends. I might with my younger sister, but definitely not my older – she is incredibly bossy, can be pretty opionated, and always has something to say about my life choices. I wouldn’t choose a friend like that.

My sisters are close with each other. They have a lot of the same friends and hang out together a lot, more since my older sister moved back in with our parents. I don’t have a lot in common with either of them to be honest and for a long time I’ve felt like the odd man out. It used to bother me a lot, but I’m just a different person than them. It happens and it is what it is. As long as we’re all happy and healthy that’s all that matters to me.

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