My relationship with my mom is complicated I guess… first I want to say, I love my mom to death, and I know she feels the same about me (of course) so that’s not the issue.
Whenever I hear about mother/daughter relationships that are super duper close, and they tell each other every single thing, I don’t relate.
Since I became I teenager, I’ve held my mom at arm’s length when it came to confiding in her or relying on her for emotional issues. My mom grew up Mormon, and she adhered to those beliefs most of her life. I was born in the church and raised in it until I turned 15 or 16. At that point I had a serious bf and lost my virginity, which is a big no-no in the church. I didn’t even tell my mom at the time, and I never felt like I could talk to her about those types of things. I sort of developed a secret life, which I’m sure a lot of teens do when it comes to boys and drinking and experimenting with drugs, etc.
Another reason I didn’t feel comfortable confiding in my mom is that her emotional state was pretty fragile for a big part of my life. In the last few years, she had a huge awakening when it comes to what she wants out of life, her happiness, and the way she approaches life in general. She’s become a much happier, healthier, well-adjusted individual in all areas, and it’s made me feel like I can share much more with her than I could in the past.
However, there are still some things that I’ve never told her… I don’t know why, I guess just because I’m so much more experienced than she is when it comes to life, and I worry what she would think or that it would disappoint her in some way… it’s probably silly!
I’m 27 and a mom of two boys, almost 5 and almost 1. I love my kids more than anything in the world, they completely changed my life. I went from a wild child to an adult when my first son was born. But I worry a lot about them growing up and becoming emotionally distant from me. I know how hard it is to be a teen, and the fact that they’re boys will make them feel like they can’t talk to their mom about uncomfortable topics. But I hope that I’ll be able to show them that they can tell me anything, and that Mom is always there for them, because she’s probably been-there-done-that and then some lol
But honestly I hope my boys stay sweet and innocent and want to live with mommy forever 😂😂