Post # 1
I am currently working for my mom as her ‘assistant’. She is a Realtor and basically has me doing anything and everything that I can do before I get my license. I quit my crap part time job back in January and started working for her while at the same time taking my courses. Because I was in class for 2 weeks in February I couldn’t do any work for her, and then I had to study for my exam in early March so I worked minimally.
Since early March I have been pretty much available all the time for her with the exception of having to study for my last correspondence course and exam which is in June. For 2 weeks while she was away I dealt with all of the stuff that needed to be done, some of it for the very first time.
She keeps saying how we are working together yet she does not treat me like this at all. I pointed out to her today during our argument that if she hired an assistant and treated her the way she’s treating me that the assistant would have quit a long time ago.
What does she do?She checks every email I send on her behalf and then tells me what I did wrong. She calls up at 9am on a Saturday frantic about something related to her client but not at all urgent (then brings this up as me not being available because I was up late watching a movie). She asks for my help but when I try to explain why her emails aren’t going through she rolls her eyes and makes noises because she’s annoyed that I’m explaining something. She expects me to read her mind essentially and gets annoyed when something doesn’t get done which 99% of the time is because she didn’t tell me that I needed to do it at all. It goes on…
Basically it’s a one way street it seems. I need to behave how she expect me to behave and but it’s ok for her to raise her voice/get annoyed/get angry/etc
Our entire argument today started after I told her that she can’t have this double standard, that she can’t expect me not to react when she loses her cool yet I am not allowed to complain about anything or make a comment about anything at all.
I don’t even know what this post is about, I guess I just wanted to vent. I know that probably the best thing to do is to just look for a job and give up on this whole idea of working with her. As much as I enjoy the business I don’t think I can do it under these circumstances.
Post # 3
I realize this is a vent but just wanted to say, I’m an assistant, and my boss is not my dad but he does similar things -checks over my emails and tells me what I did wrong, will call me up frantic on a saturday night while I am out with friends because he can’t find a stapler and needs me to get there asap, I get yelled at when he doesn’t tell me things but “I SHOULD JUST KNOW!” Just today he asked me to print him out directions but hung up on me before I could get the addresses. I literally had to guess where he was going and print up about 20 different options, luckily I got one right.
Being an assistant means dying a little inside…
Post # 4
@MrsPinkPeony: haha ok that actually makes me feel better that it’s more of an assistant thing than just my mom. I guess it’s different for you because you can’t say much back unless you want to lose your job but I expect and want my mom to treat me with some courtesy if she expects us to stay on talking terms.
The address thing is exactly like my mom! She even has a GPS in her car.
Thanks for listening 🙂
Post # 5
Being an assistant is hard! I totally feel for you.
One time I was admin assistant at an office and I didn’t really get much training but I was just expected to know what he wanted, when and how even at my first time doing tasks. I had to be a mind reader and know what he wanted half the time. He would give me a task, tell me how to do it, I would do it, then he would change his mind and I did it the wrong way, not his fault that he changed his mind.
Just remember you will have your license soon and then you can have your own assistant to torture one day!!
Post # 6
@Mrs.RDV: Are you sure this person wasn’t my mom? haha that is exactly what she does! I have been trying to not say anything but sometimes (like today) she makes it so difficult.
I guess what worries me is that nothing will really change once I get my license because we’re supposed to continue working together as a team. A friend asked why don’t I just work on my own or in another office, my response was “Why don’t I just kill her then? because that will be her reaction.” I hope I can distance myself from her but I know that she expects me to do a lot of the same stuff that I’m doing now even when I’m licensed because she hates doing it or doesn’t know how to do it.