- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Without getting into a lot of background, my FILs–every single one of them–have a habit of turning every event for me into an annoyance if not a nightmare. They show up late, back out of doing things they promised to do, are rude to other guests at parties, just to name a few things. The worst has to be his aunt, who I have only met twice, who insulted me personally on the first meeting and one of my family members on the second meeting. Fiance and I have both agreed that we basically aren’t going to take her BS, and are on the fence about allowing her at the wedding, and after that she will no longer be welcome at any of our parties or get togethers.
So right now, I’m planning Fiance a small surprise birthday party since he is turning 30 this year, and inviting a few close friends and family. I sent a reminder email to his parents yesterday about the time, date and place and asked them to extend the invite to a few other family members that they see on a regular basis. I get an email today from his mom telling me that while his one uncle can’t make it, his aunt, the one that has been banned, is excited to be coming out for the party.
How do I deal with this? I’ve narrowed it down to three options, and no matter what I do, there is going to be an issue. Do I let is slide and be miserable that she is there, and risk her saying something that will result in a blow up at his party, tell his mom she is not invited and start a war a little over a month before the wedding, or tell his mom that’s fine, but she better come with an attitude adjustment, and still start a war?
I guess I just needed to vent and get some unbiased advice since I can’t ask Fiance and ruin the surprise, and my mom and sister want to punch her in the face almost as bad as I do, so they aren’t any help.