- 6 years ago
I need to vent here because I really can’t anywhere else, and I am ready to TEAR my hair out!
My Fiance graduated from college last May and didn’t find a job until October. The place he’s with is not ideal (glorified telemarketing), but it gave him benefits at 3 months, including sick pay, vacation and health insurance. Back in December, he began having some medical issues. At the time he was still on his mom’s Massachusetts-based insurance and couldn’t find a doctor accepting new patients that also took his insurance.
We thought it was just a UTI at first, but tests at a prompt care facility revealed nothing. Finally, three weeks ago I took him to the ER in the morning when he woke up with severe abdominal pain… 8 hours later, they determined his appendix was infected and rushed him to emergency surgery. He was off work for 10 days based on the surgeon’s orders and went back last Tuesday.
Unfortunately, not all of his issues have been resolved. He is still having serious problems with needing the bathroom frequently. At his job, you need to sign out a pass every. single. time. to use the restroom. He’s been very open and honest with his superiors re: what’s going on, why he’s needing frequent breaks, etc. But today I guess he came in and got REAMED out for all the breaks (after being told three days ago that they understand and he doesn’t need to use the pass anymore) and told if he doesn’t present a new doctor’s note asap they’ll be taking disciplinary action.
He has called his surgeon’s office multiple times this week and last, never received the promised call-back. Finally got an appointment with my doctor’s office (his new insurance kicked in and they take it, yay!), but it’s not for another 3 weeks. He’s so frustrated that he’s probably going to go to the ER after work today just to get a fucking doctor’s note so he hopefully doesn’t get fired for a medical issue.
And I just don’t understand. Do they think he LIKES having to pee/feeling like he has to every half hour? Do they think he enjoys all these people knowing that his junk isn’t working? Do they think it’s a rolling good time to wake up terrified to go to work because you know you might get fired for not feeling well?
I just don’t understand the mentality that sick = bad, horrible person. I get it somewhat at my job, too, where we only get 3 sick days a year. I’m sorry if I am not a robot, but as a human being sometimes germs and viruses invade my fragile body and I need to take care of it.
If he gets fired, idk what we’ll do. My income is not enough to support us, and the job situation where we live is practically nonexistant. And he suffers from depression (untreated – we can’t afford to), which I’m so afraid will come back if this negativity keeps raining down on him. He texted me this morning and said he feels like a terrible person and is so stressed he doesn’t know if it’s worth it anymore.
*sigh* Sorry this is so long, but I’m just at my wit’s end and so afraid for him and us and also really freaked out that there might be something else wrong with him that isn’t as easily treatable as a bad appendix.
(PS – hope this is in the right spot, couldn’t decide between career or wellness.)