(Closed) NWR: worked myself up into frenzy, and need some calming influences.

• scribble82
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: December 2023

My fiance is supposed to finish work at 9pm.

It’s now nearly 6.30am here and he hasn’t turned up at home.

At 10pm I got a text saying that he’d be a bit late.

As he works in a restaurant it sometimes happens that they run over with customers not leaving, so I gave it a couple of hours.

At 1.30am I got on my motorbike and rode to his workplace. His workplace is in the middle of nowhere, with one road that leads to and from the restaurant, and as he sometimes leaves last I thought that maybe he might have come off his motorcycle, but noone would have known.

I rode his route there and back, got in at 2.30 and he hadn’t come back. His workplace was locked up and dark, and his bike wasn’t parked outside in the usual spot.

His phone’s battery never lasts the day (stupid iphones) so his phone’s been dead since about 10.30pm and I can’t contact him.

I text the few of his friends and family members that I could find the numbers of, but so far no luck.

I’ve just finished texting my friend who’s a police woman, to see if she can find out if anything’s happened to him.

I’m just in a right state at the moment, there’s noone I can contact right now, so here I am – back on weddingbee, just looking for a nice rational person to tell me to chill out and stop stressing.

Obviously I’m hoping that he’s not hurt in anyway, not in the hospital or prison, but if he’s totally fine and just went out for the night without telling me – well who the feck does that?

I’ve posted on here before about some problems we were going through, so I know that some of the bees think he’s a bit of a dick, but he’s pulled his socks up since then, turned it around and we’ve been a whole lot better. I love him more than anything, and the past few hours have been total hell. 

If he turns up at whatever time today, without a decent explanation, I will rip him a new one. At the same time, I don’t want him to be hurt or in trouble.

Gah, not loving stuff at this moment in time! 

• scribble82
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: December 2023

Thank you lovely ladies 🙂

@MissMeowMeow:  I wish I could sleep! You know when you’re so tired you feel sick, that’s me right now. But I’ve put some mindlessness on the tv. I’m hoping he turns up sooner rather than later, he’s never done anything like this before – which is why I have my worry on.

@j_jaye:  It’s possible, but if that’s the case I am well unhappy. I know his phone died, but all his friends/workmates have phones. I’ve not tried the hospital yet, but if it gets to 9am and he’s still not home, that’s my next step.

Resisting the urge to go out and ride around the places I know his friends and family live…

• scribble82
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: December 2023

@StuporDuck:  He’s fairly sociable and outgoing, especially with his workmates – but he’s not much of a drinker, and never drinks when he’s driving (riding?).

I don’t like all this inbetween-y stuff I’m feeling. I’d like to know if I need to be worried or cross!

• scribble82
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: December 2023

Just had a phone call from his mum. She thinks he’s probably gone for a drink with his friend John from work, and stayed over at his, as he did it a couple of times a few weeks ago while I was away.

Me and his mum are in agreement that he is in for a massive bollocking. There are so many ways he could have got in touch, but he chose not to. He’s going to be sofa-ing it up for a bit at this rate!