Post # 1
I work in a pretty laid back office. However, I take my job very seriously. There are times when I’m extremely busy – usually multi-tasking and juggling different projects.
I have a certain family member that I don’t really get along with who calls from time to time – the conversation typically goes something like:
Person: Are you busy?
Person: Ok, I have something quick to ask you… and starts talking.
Today it happened again (same person) and the same question was asked – this time I said: Yes, but what’s up? – and the question was asked and I gave a short answer and quickly got off the phone.
I’ve been confronted by this person that they feel like I’m blowing them off because I act like I don’t have time for them. That other family members they call are equally if not more pressed for time, but are more polite.
I can understand their point and perhaps I should speak more calmly (vs. with the tone of “I don’t have time for this”) – but at the same time – I’m at WORK for crying out loud!!!
I guess my question is – do you find it rude if someone hurridly blows you off – when they are at work and it’s a personal call? If I call Darling Husband and he has to get off the phone quickly – I’m not offended in the least…. same thing with friends….
Post # 3
@oracle: Oh good grief! You’re definitely not being rude, and I wouldn’t find it rude at all. Fiance blows me off all the time when I call him at work lol. I just know he’s super busy and I don’t mind!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’d just say, when they ask if I’m busy, “I’d love to chat but I’m swamped. Can you call me at home/on my cell phone after I’m off work?”
I rarely take personal calls at work–just from Mr. S, and he knows to keep it short. My family knows they won’t get me if they call before 7.
Post # 5
Maybe they sense that they are not your favorite person and that is why they are hurt? Maybe it would help if you tried calling them outside of work every so often? I am never hurt by brusquness if I am sure that person loves me and I know wants to talk to me.
Post # 6
I consider calling people at work (for non emergencies) rude. I would tell them that if it is not an emergency to either email you or call your personal phone during non work hours.
Post # 7
no you are not being rude, I would find it rude if someone calls me at work at all! It’s so unprofessional and I’m the type of person bosses love to come down on even if everyone else does it, she/he should make it a habbit to either email their pressing questions or call you later.
Post # 8
I think it’s very rude of the person to call you at work. Is there a way to tell them that due to problems with worker productivity that the company has instituted a “no personal calls” rule and that you will call them on break from your cell?
Edit: Wow, I’m a stinker. LOL
Post # 9
@Dec-bride: This is exactly what I was going to say!
Post # 10
No, if people are at work I do not get offended because I completely understand that talking on the phone at work is a no-no.
Post # 11
What I would do is call this person after work today & talk to them about it. Something like: Hey I love talking with you but when I’m at work, I can be risking my job by taking personal calls. I can talk on my breaks & lunch & after work. I love/like/need my job, so please call me at (give cell or home number) & I will answer if I can & if not, call you back when I can. Its not that I don’t like to talk to you, its just I’m at work & can’t really take personal calls there.
Post # 12
I think this other person is rude for expecting you to be able to take personal calls at work.
Yes – I’m sure we all make or receive the occasional personal call during working hours. But it is unreasonable for her to expect you just to be able to chat whenever when you are at work, especially after you indicated that you were busy.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens
Yup, I’d have to agree with PP. The only rude person in your scenario is the person calling you. Not the other way around.
Post # 14
I don’t think so! I would be annoyed. 🙂 When they ask me if I was busy I would say, “Yes I am and I cannot talk right now, can I call you back after work?” or something that tells them you will speak with them later in the day.
Post # 15
No, not rude. My work is a cubicle farm so there is no privacy. I am very short if it’s a personal call. Email or text is so much eaiser. Or, I have to go to some of the rooms that are known as ‘phone booths’ to make private phone calls.
Maybe for someone people you have to remind them everytime. “Hey, I’m at work. Is it something quick?”
Post # 16
I think they shouldnt be calling you at work unless its kind of an emergency. When you are at work you are there to work. Thats just my opinion what kind of question is are you busy? Ugh ya dah Im at work. Next time it happens just try to have a better tone I guess. I mean you dont want to piss anyone off or whatever, but just make it clear like I have a job to do.