(Closed) NWR: Would you ever spank your kid?

posted 10 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Is spanking ever ok?

    Yes, under any circumstance.

    Yes, under EXTREME circumstances (what do you consider "extreme"?)

    Never

    Other, please explain

  • Post # 212
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    Busy Beekeeper
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    @wellykiwi: You can’t compare America to another country that doesn’t spank because it’s illegal. There are other factors to consider. I could easily say that the Sweedish children are better behaved than American children because 99% of them were breastfed. I could say that the children in the country where spanking is illegal are better behaved than American children because they don’t watch as much TV, or eat as much crap, or sit in school for long long hours, or lives in a home where one parents works and the other stays home, or they don’t drink tap water.

    Post # 213
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    Busy bee
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    @wellykiwi: Not all children are the same. I have a list of things I will do before spanking but if he STILL doesn’t listen then a swat on the butt may just be the thing that works. Some kids learn best by being spanked and some never have to be spanked because they listen to their parents. EACH CHILD IS DIFFERENT! It’s not always the parents fault how the kids act and some kids are good even if their parents set a bad example. I grew up with my parents always drunk, high, or hopped up on pills, and I have never smoked anything, not even a cigarette, drank a little socially but stopped, and don’t take any pills unless I have to (prenatal vitamins when I was pregnant) but some kids raised around that would follow in their parents footsteps and do the same things. It can go the other way too. I knew someone (they passed away from an OD of cocaine) whose parents were big religious people. They went to church every Sunday, never spanked their kids, were really good people in the comunity but their oldest child decided to act out anyway. They were always getting in trouble with the cops, doing drugs, drinking, getting girls pregnant (there were 5 who got pregnant by him), etc. You can’t blame his parents for that when their other two kids grew up the same way but never did any of those things. I’m just saying that, though there ARE other ways to decipline your kids, sometimes spanking works best and that it’s not always the parents fault how the kids turn out.

    Post # 214
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    Busy bee
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    @Miss Tattoo: True! There are many things we have that they don’t have there that contribute to how kids act. Well said!

    Post # 215
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    Busy Beekeeper
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    Anyone can produce a study that shows something that is going to support the study. LIke I said, I’m sure if I looked hard enough, I could find a study that says the reason why Sweedish children don’t need spanked is because they are all breastfed and formula is only avaliable with a RX. Then what? People are going to jump all over the formula vs breastfeeding debate. “Well, if 9 million people can be well adjusted because of breastfeeding, I don’t see why ANYONE would choose to use formula!” lol

    Post # 216
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    Helper bee

    “I’m just saying that, though there ARE other ways to decipline your kids, sometimes spanking works best and that it’s not always the parents fault how the kids turn out.” – Interesting thought.

    I might be wrong on this, but so might you guys, as I said earlier, we may just have to agree to disagree. Now, on to the dresses thread!

    Post # 217
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    @wellykiwi: Spanking is legal in Somalia.  That country is totally messed up.  Therefore spanking must result in totally messed up kids.

    BUT

    Spanking is illegal in Israel.  That country is totally messed up.  Therefore not spanking must result in totally messed up kids.

    You can’t really say that what makes Sweden a great country is the fact that it opted to ban spanking in 1979.  Sweden cannot be compared to the US because of HUGE things like the fact that 88% of the population is Lutheran, or that there is a national police force.  Conversely, you can’t say the US is messed up because it allows spankings…

    Post # 218
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    Helper bee
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    I’m not sure how Sweden because the “golden child” in this discussion. I actually live here and it is not this wonderful utopia with perfect citizens and children. In the last month there has been a child randomly grabbed off the back of his mother’s bike by a stranger and held hostage for 2 hrs with a knife to his throat…wonder if he was spanked as a child? There was a shooter that was randomly shooting people after dark, not killing them but wounding them…wonder if he was spanked? Maybe they were, maybe they weren’t. I see bratty children on the street everyday that talk back to their parents, lay down on the street, kicking and screaming.

    You cannot compare a country of 9 million people that have always had a socialistic govt that has always told them what to do and they seem lost if they aren’t told what to do to a country of 300 million with a population known for its independent thinking. No one can definitively say one way works and another doesn’t. Everyone needs to back off the use of words barbaric, abusive, etc…of course that’s going to offend the people that do spank.

    This post was NOT about if its OK to spank, it was about WILL you spank.

    Post # 219
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    Buzzing bee
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    I voted never. My parents never spanked me.. I think my dad did once, but that’s because when I was little I climbed up on the stove when it was on!

    Post # 220
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    Buzzing bee
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    @jayce:

    I think if you read my comment through, you would notice that I said ‘for fun’, and that my point was that none of the ‘studies’ quoted so far are conclusive, nor is touting Sweden as an example appropriate since the outlawing of spanking has not actually deterred parents who spank their children, all it has done is seen their actions reclassified as abuse.

    I am well aware of what Newsmax is thank you, I was just letting you know what happens when you hit google + spanking + children.

     

    Post # 221
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    Buzzing bee
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    @wellykiwi:

    I would also like to add that you are making the assumption that because it is illegal to spank children in Sweden people don’t do it which is not actually true.

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