(Closed) NWR: Would you move in to a roommate situation?

posted 8 years ago in Home
Post # 3
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I don’t think we would do it…unless our financial situation really necessitated it.We’re both pretty antisocial and enjoy our privacy, so it wouldn’t work out well. But, I’ve seen it work great with other couples/roommates! Just depends on how much you’re willing to compromise. 

Post # 4
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

The only way I’d do it is if there was absolutely no other option.  I’ve never seen it turn out good, in my personal experience.  I mean, I guess if the other roomate is gone a lot, or if you guys are… but if you’re all gonna be home a lot of the same time, then no.  I just feel like little things can blow up and become major conflicts.  Like, what if roomate is a TV hog and hogs the living room TV?  Do you wanna have to be in your room all the time?  What if they have loud sex?  What if you and Fiance want to have loud sex?  Lol! 

The upside is having your own bathroom, though!  I definitely could not do the sharing a bathroom thing.

Post # 5
4601 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I don’t think I could no.  Never again after uni.

Post # 6
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hm.  I would normally say no.  

But it’s temporary with an end in sight, gets you closer to wher. You want to e goal wise.

I’d do it.

Post # 7
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

yes, definately because money does matter. Not that you need oodles of it, but having a bit extra to save or to go to the movies can do wonders for your relationship compared to wondering how a bill will get paid and spending every night at home.

However, that said, I would be sure to establish boundaries to start. Who is buying what food and are you sharing? Whats the schedule for buying toilet paper? Cleaning? etc.

Saving a little extra money and having a roommate that works (takes prep) can be fun and help your future years a lot.

Post # 8
10450 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I have never and could never live with a roommate. You and your fiancé should have privacy.

Post # 9
2446 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t do it personally but I’m tough to live with. I have a routine with the Fiance and we don’t like anyone messing with our routine. I also like to watch tv in my underpants, which wouldn’t work too well with the roommate.

Post # 10
1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My Fiance and live with a roomate and it works great.  It just depends on the situation

Post # 11
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I couldn’t do it.  I’ve had some very bad experiences with roommates that were supposed to be good friends. 

Post # 12
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m moving down to New Zealand and in with my guy at the end of May next year after I graduate and he has two guys (friends of his from work) that rent rooms in the house he owns.  While there’s some unfortunate things about it (3 guys, no toilet seat down, lots of dirty dishes in the sink, once I found a random hot dog sitting on the counter at 8 AM after they had all left for work . . ) there’s also some really positive things like with their work schedules I’ll never be completely alone in the house for at least the first few months and there’s always someone to help me figure my way around the country and what the social norms are.

I know my SO is kind of pleased about it too because he’s uncomfortable leaving me entirely to my own devices as I may or may not like to demolish a few of the nuisance walls with a sledgehammer or perhaps by accidentally falling foot first through one a few times over.  But there’s also that comfort of knowing that there’s someone else at the house with me in case I have some sort of problem and he isn’t there.  Did I mention that my middle name is Trouble?

Post # 13
1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I personally wouldn’t. You might have your own bathroom, but you still have to share the kitchen and living room… not to mention chores! My fiancé and i lived with my sister for 6 months (I know it’s different because it was my sister…), but three is a crowd, we found ourselves all being roomies instead of a couple and a roomie. Very hard to have alone time and connecting as a couple for when it’s REALLY needed, to talk, argue, even sex… Chances are, you guys and this roomate wont always see eye to eye… This is just my opinion, but i would not. It pushed our relationship to the brink, we even broke up for 5 days. if you have any friend-feelings for this roomie, i would advise against it, your SO might have to vent about her/him and it might be really hard for you to play the middle person, as i had to do with my sister and SO. those are just my experiences tho…… Good luck, i hope you make the right decision for you.


Post # 14
1853 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I wouldn’t… Fiance and I have 3 extra full bedrooms and an ensuite bath, and we can’t even bring  ourselves to rent them to someone. It can work for people who are really mellow and social. Fiance and I just…aren’t. Fiance loves being naked. Like he’s either in his military uniform for work, or he’s naked. That was his big reason for the “no renters allowed” clause.

It does work for some people though, and saving the money for your house is a great option!

Post # 15
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Only if the dog is allowed!

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