(Closed) NWR: would you send a thank you card for this?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Send a card?
    Yes : (13 votes)
    29 %
    No : (32 votes)
    71 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1042 posts
    Bumble bee

    Something passive aggressive “thank you so much for the outfit. my son\daughter will look adorable in it. Thank you again 

    Post # 3
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    7905 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    So she knew you had given those clothes to her? Did she give you a thank you note for the outfit when you gave it to her the first time? Perhaps you can change the names and give that to her? It’s an odd situation. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    smoocheepoo:  I would probably put it on my kid, Take a picture, and text it “so and so looks fab in her outfit! Thanks aunty regifter!!”

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    It sounds like a return rather than a gift, so no, not card should be necessary for basically saying “thanks for the outfit, we didn’t like it enough to use it so you can have it back for your kid”

    Post # 6
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    9528 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    And congrats on your new beautiful baby!

    Post # 7
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    3065 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    smoocheepoo:  I wouldnt do anything catty but I wouldnt send a thank you either. I gave my SILs a ton of brand new clothes ( I don’t have kids) when they had their babies, I didn’t expect a thank you note ( nor did they give one- a verbal one was more than enough!)

    If you want to kill her with kindness take a pic with your babe in the outfit and send a thank you text .

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    No card needed for THAT.  And no acknowledgment of the “gift” is needed even in conversation.  I would be mortified and embarrassed to pull something like this off. Congrats with the new baby,  and ignore that weirdo. 

    Post # 9
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    1256 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    smoocheepoo:  I would send a minimal but polite thank you since that is normally what the family does. I agree that it’s a bit of a strange situation, but I would do it in order to move on from it and not have it be one of those things that pops up again and causes trouble in the future. The last thing you want is to have her complain to someone else in a few months time that you didn’t thank her, then you try and explain your side of it and it comes off petty, and then suddenly it and turns into a pesky family drama. Yep,  I would send the card simply to avoid potential future troubles. Good luck!

    Post # 11
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    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    Odd for sure, but does it hurt to say thank you? No. So I say just do it and you’ll feel better about it. 

    Post # 12
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    7413 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    When you give her the item, it becomes hers. While it’s definitely odd, it’s no less of a gift. If you gave her a car or a TV and then ended up needing one of those, you’d thank her for giving those to you (I hope).

    Post # 13
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    134 posts
    Blushing bee

    I would send a thank you for a hand me down. I mean this is a bit weird but it is always best to be gracious, and hey if you bought it, you must have liked it so it could be worse.

    Post # 14
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    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    smoocheepoo:  I agree with pp, if someone gave me hands me downs I’d thank them too. I’m wondering why it’s a big question?  It is never a bad idea to be gracious. if you’re big into thank you cards and you’re sending them to other family, why not to her?  If you don’t send one because you don’t deem it worthy, you won’t just appear petty, it will become actuality.  

    I think everyone agrees it’s odd for her to regift to the original giver, and I don’t blame you for doing a double take, but honestly just send a thank you and be done. It will be a nice gesture, it doesn’t hurt you or put you out in the slightest, and it doesn’t turn into something ugly and long lasting within the fam. 

    Oh, and congratulations!

    anthrogrl:  Horseradish:  ditto!  

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    Could it be that she got multiples of the gift you gave her? I would just say thank you in person and leave it at that. 

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