(Closed) NWR…SO made me bawl my eyes out…not even a big deal, really…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Is he visiting family in Oklahoma other than his grandfather?  I don’t know…sometimes people just don’t react the way you expect them to.  My husband does this sometimes…I’ll think he’s going to be so excited, and he’s like MEH, and it hurts a little.  But you can’t let it upset you TOO much.  It’s just a basketball game.  Maybe he wants to see them play in Chicago.

Post # 4
5220 posts
Bee Keeper

@cmoest:  if he is anything like me and my husband ( both HUGE sports nuts), seeing them play not in their home arena, with home fans and getting the overall experience is just not quite as exciting. If anything, he saved you time/money by turning it down. Just try and calm down,  it doesn’t sound in any way, shape, or form is this him not appreciating you. 

Post # 5
708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Going to see “your” team at an away venue is not the same as seeing them at home – he probably just doesn’t want you to waste your money when going to Memphis to see the Bulls isn’t what he really wants. Your intentions were wonderful and sometimes, like PP said, guys just don’t react the way you want them to. It’s not a huge deal – let it go and come up with something else wonderful to give him for Christmas.

Post # 7
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@cmoest:  Maybe, just maybe, although he talks about it as something he WOULD LOVE TO DO in his lifetime, this dream to see his favorite sport team(s) play is one of those things that he would rather fantasize about, then make it a reality?!  Sometimes when we build things up in our head, you do not want it ‘ruined’ or lessened by experiencing it, so you continue to dream it, rather than do it?! 

Although for most people those dreams are on a much larger scale…but it may be the case.  OR, maybe he does not want you to spend the money on something he is legitimately not sure he can attend.  Sure, he usually goes for a week, and then comes home, but what if this time it is pronlonged?  Wouldn’t you be MORE crushed if you bought the tickets, and then a few days before he calls you to say he is staying in Oklahoma?!

These are the first two ‘voice of reason’ things that popped into my mind.  Your gut reaction is to be hurt, or upset, but maybe his reasons are vaild.  Talk to him more in depth. 

Post # 10
9671 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m a big basketball fan and away games are just not as fun as home games.  Definitely not the same thing, not even close.  Maybe he would rather go to a home game for his first one?

Have you looked into January games?  Just because it’s a Christmas present doesn’t mean it needs to be one of the immediate games around Christmas.

Post # 11
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Hey, at least he didn’t react this way after you planned it all out and surprised him with tickets. THAT would suck. All you really did was suggest to him that it’s possible to go to a game that’s 2 hours away. This really has nothing to do with you.

I’m a huge hockey fan and my SO has suggested we go to a neighboring city to take in an away game. I’m like ok, maybe. I didn’t jump out of my seat with excitement. It crossed my mind plenty of times as well. If he said “darling, I booked tickets and we’re staying in this awesome hotel next weekend” I would be more excited. Like all you did was make a suggestion. I get irrational too sometimes, but I guess I am having a hard time understanding exactly why this upset you so much. He probably already knew they were coming to Memphis as well if he’s such a superfan. Also, maybe he just wants to come home after spending a week with family.

Post # 13
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@cmoest: I don’t know what your financial situation is like, but you should plan what my husband and I call a “fringe” trip to Chicago – planning a trip at the end of one season and the beginning of another. I agree with previous posters – seeing your own team in a visitor’s arena/field is not the same as seeing it at “home.”

April: Beginning of baseball season/end of hockey season/two weeks left in basketball
You could probably hit four Chicago teams (Cubs & White Sox – baseball; Blackhawks – hockey; Bulls – basketball)

End of September/Beginning of October: End of baseball season/beginning of hockey season/beginning of football
Again, you could probably hit four Chicago teams (Cubs and White Sox – baseball; Blackhawks – hockey; Bears – football)

Wrigley Field, where the Cubs play, is probably the best place to see a baseball game in the world. You definitely have to make a trip there!

My husband and I go on these trips all the time. They’re super fun, and can be done really inexpensively if you do your research. Good luck!  

Post # 14
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@cmoest:  Did it ever occur to you that maybe some family emergency is popping up with his grandfather?

I’m a huge Bulls fan (Chicago born & bred), but obviously family comes first. Hope everything is ok with his family. Honestly, there could be so many reasons why he doesn’t want to go to an Away game.

If I were you, I wouldn’t be worried about the gift as much as I would be worried about your SO’s family and why his trip may be longer than expected.

Post # 16
11697 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

my Fh does this type of thing too and it always upsets me.  Sometimes people don’t realize how excited you are to do something nice for them.

What PP’s said is true though, seeing your team in their home venue is way better.  Maybe your SO really wants that to be your honeymoon?

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