Post # 1
My fiance and I have been engaged for about three months and want to get married this upcoming December or January. I know the timing is fast, but the faster it is, the less stress it’ll be.
My parents have offered to spent $10k on the wedding (and not a penny more), and insist upon having it IN Manhattan (no other borough). This is proving to be an extreme challenge and I’m starting to panick. I’ve lowered the guestlist as low as it can go (50 people), but finding a venue where food/drink/site fee is $7k or less (leaving room for dress, invitations, etc.) is proving to be impossible. I really don’t want to elope.
I’m not a bridezilla and really am open to anything that will help me just to get through this day sucessfully and under budget.
Anyone have any suggestions that hopefully I haven’t looked into yet? To give you an idea, I’ve been looking at every unusual place I can think of, restaurants, wine bars, etc.
THANK YOU in advance for your help!
Post # 3
Can you and your fiance contribute to the budget? I live in Boston and I know that having a wedding IN Boston (vs the burbs) for that budget would be extremely difficult…. and NYC is worse!
It sounds like you are being very thorough in your research. Good luck!
Post # 4
I would love to contribute to the budget but my parents “won’t let me.” I’ll probably end up helping out here and there, but they’re being stubborn with their pride!
Post # 5
jeez. you need to let them know that that’s really not feasible in manhattan. id suggest looking at restaurants maybe in less trendy neighborhoods. maybe the financial district? or washington heights? or maybe you could do a brunch reception somewhere? look for restaurants that have recently opened–they might be more open to doing it cheaper. maybe a BYOB place?
i know you said it had to be manhattan, but i think youd have much better luck in brooklyn.
keep us updated! i am curious to hear what you find–we are getting married in brooklyn for 35 grand & i found staying at that number challenging enough! but we also had a bigger guest list & some non negotiables for us (like must be full seated dinner, live band etc)
Post # 6
I live just outside NYC and this sounds like a diffcult task. I dont know if it’s impossible. For 50 people what type of event are you looking for exactly? Dinner and dancing or just a dinner? You can use the Vendor search on here which I think is great and search for venues by zip code. Good luck!
Post # 7
Just chiming in to say Good Luck! We are having a Destination Wedding and are way over that budget, I cant even imagine doing it in NYC, I would just explain to your parents you cant have the wedding you want with that budget and that you would love to contribute to it so you can have your dream wedding. I would hope they can understand that. Pride or no pride they should want you to be happy on your wedding day, maybe they would settle for letting you pay for your dress or something……
Post # 8
Why won’t your parents let you contribute? My parents gave me a number of what they would contribute, and said if I wanted anything else, I’d have to find my own way to provide, which I think is fair.
You should explain to them that it’s nearly impossible to do what you’re looking to do with that budget!
Post # 9
Thanks everyone!! I’m really open to most types of weddings, though I’d prefer sit-down, but am willing to budge on that. Also willing to budget on premium bar and stuff like that. A brunch is proving to be a challenge as well, because since I’m Jewish, I can’t be married on a Friday night, or Saturday during the day. And I’m really, really trying to avoid a Sunday.
Post # 10
Ouch. That sounds difficult. We’re spending 10k for 75 people with a live band in Brooklyn. It’s tight but doable. Did you look at NY magazines comprehensive list of venues? They have low budget ones in there and we considered a few. Ooh how about renting a loft space and getting an outer borough restaurant to cater?
Use your off season leverage to negotiate heavily. Do a Sunday or Friday. I think you can manage it for 50 people. Don’t spend lots on a dress!
Post # 11
@abbie017: I think it’s a pride thing. It’s not for a lack of trying!
Post # 12
@peanutbutter1205: If you don’t mind me asking, where in Brooklyn are you getting married? And is it a Saturday night? Maybe I can convince them (I love Brooklyn)!
Post # 13
By the way, I’ve priced Live Bands in New Jersey and they (started) at about $6500 and went upwards of 10K! We got a DJ instead…
Post # 14
Over in the UK they did a ‘don’t tell the bride’ in NYC for £12k- it was at the Alice in wonderland statue in central park and then in an art gallery, which included the flights!! I think that program is a load of rubbish budget wise though-I moan my way through the whole show telling my Darling Husband how that would never been enough!! I just wanted to wish you Good luck, I LOVE that city!!
Post # 15
I would do google searches for things like, “restaurant wedding nyc” and “venues for 50 nyc” to see what you can find.
This place could be really interesting: http://viktorandspoils.com/#!prettyPhoto/45/
This looks nice: http://alisoneighteen.com/events-and-catering/private-event-information/
And if you love dim sum: http://www.goldenunicornrestaurant.com/
Post # 16
@cabincrewkate: Thanks for the luck! And hi from NYC… I love, love, LOVE London 😉