(Closed) NYC or Upstate Wedding???

posted 8 years ago in New York City
Post # 3
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We kind of were in the same situation…always imagined an NYC wedding, but could have gotten a lot more for our money outside the city. But in the end, we just couldn’t give up the idea of having our elegant, classy city wedding. You need to decide what’s important to you and whether having your wedding in the city will mean that you won’t be able to get the photographer you want, the band/dj you want, etc. Another thing we thought of is that none of our friends have cars because they all live in the city, and so commuting somewhere else would have been difficult for them. Where do most of your friends and family live?

Post # 4
8737 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@TribecaBride: I live in NYC and absolutely LOVE the city, but we will be getting married outside in Maine.

Both Fiance and I are low key people and the city just seemed TOO extravagant for us. Our wedding size is going to be under 100 and I felt a party like that would be dwarfed by the city, and all the outdoor spaces are so popular AND expensive.

When we went up to Maine, it just had the right feel. It could still be very elegant and romantic, but without the super formality of the city. Plus this way we can have a waterfront wedding without ferries, water taxis, etc everywhere.

Post # 5
11051 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011


Only having been a tourist to NYC I can see why you’d want the city pictures and experience

Post # 6
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Even though there are many parts of the city that I love, it wasn’t hard for us to decide to have our wedding outside of the city.  (I think living here has made me appreciate nature a lot more).

Part of why we chose our venue (Bear Mountain, about an hour outside of the city) is because it’s so pretty and the season will really stand out.  (We’re having it in fall, and I really really wanted the nature/seasonal feel to play a role).  It sounds like wanting a “winter wonderland” feel would take on such a different and beautiful feel than could be achieved in the city. And I think upstate/outside of the city NY is SOOOO beautiful. 

I guess some things to consider are what kind of vibe you’d want for the wedding…NYC is  very cool and hip and flashy, and nature is very everything the opposite of that.  🙂  So maybe take that into account.  Also, if it’s $100 less a person…well depending on how many people you’re having…say you were having 150, that’s $15,000 less to have it outside of the city, or $15,000 more to have it in NYC.  So, is NYC worth $15,000? 

And in regards to pictures…the NYC pics would be awesome…what if you guys did engagement pics?  or even post wedding pics with your full outfits on?  (And, if you were saving on the venue, you’d have that extra money for pics!  🙂  )

I think whatever you do, it’ll be beautiful.  Though I have to say I love the New York State nature, and think a wedding in that setting takes on a much different sort of beauty than the city woud allow. 

Post # 7
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I too live in NYC, but have decided to head upstate for the wedding. We’re getting married in Albany. I knew right away that it was just be so much more affordable, plus most of my friends and family already live there so they won’t have to travel!

I agree with the PP about getting epics in the city. Fiance and I are thinking about doing that ourselves, because NYC just has so many great opportunities for awesome photos!

For me, I really wanted to save the money and upstate NY really is beautiful!!

When I think January in the city, I think about the yucky slush…. When I think January in upstate NY, I think winter wonderland!!

Post # 8
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m in NYC, but we really didnt even consider NYC and opted for Vermont (basically same as up state)  We knew it would be much more money here, but that isnt exactly what stopped us.  It was the backdrop and the serenity and pace of things.  So really I think thats what you need to consider.  If you really want an NYC wedding, you can always make it work.  You just need to consider the vibe your after.

Post # 10
40 posts

We chose to have our wedding in the city – I definitely wanted the look you are talking about and I love that it’s where we met. More importantly though, both families will be traveling in and we figured if we did something not too far out of the city it would actually be more difficult for transportation. Plus it is easier on our friends! We are lucky enough to have the means to do it, but whatever you choose will definitely be beautiful. You can host an amazing wedding anywhere 🙂

Post # 11
2742 posts
Sugar bee

@TribecaBride: I feel you. My family is in TX and I live here and my vision of my wedding leaves my mother scratching her head but we will pull it off. Have you looked at Mrs. Star? She was a blogger bee and she had a New York City wedding but I have to admit, her pictures after the wedding were awesome! I like you, love the city. So…., after marrying in TX, I shall come here and pay a photographer to follow me in all my wedding finery PLUS A BOUQUET and I shall go to the Botanical Garden near my house, the train, take a yellow cab and end up at the Metropolitan Opera. Yes ladies, I’m getting my photo shot!

Post # 12
1509 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

How many out of town guests are you having?  We live in California and just attended a beautiful wedding at the Tribeca Loft two weekends ago.  Both the bride and groom live in Manhattan but are from Chicago and I know that we (in addition to all of the other guests) loved going to their wedding in the city since there was so much for us to all do.  The food at the Tribeca Loft was absolutely fantastic as well.  I’ve never seen this, but you did not select your entree until you were there and a waitor asked you as if you were ordering from a restaurant – I really liked this added touch.

Post # 13
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would normally vote upstate since I am an upstate (Lake George) bride but January up here can be very unpredictable. That is when we tend to get the majority of our snow. I have personally experienced it so bad to the point where state of emergencies have been declared and residents have been urged to not leave their homes! My concern is that we could get hit with a crazy storm that would shut down the airport. On the other hand, it could be like last year where we hardly got any snow, there’s just no way of knowing. I do love Cooperstown though!

Post # 14
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We had the LI vs. Upstate debate for a long time.  And though money was a huge reason to do it upstate… we chose to do it on LI simply for the fact that im too much of a conttrol freak to do things site unseen and i dont know if I would have the time to be traveling back and forth upstate… id be planning my wedding 100% alone or from LI

Post # 15
447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think it might seem easier for your FI’s family to travel to NYC, but keep in mind that the city can be overwhelming for first-time visitors… and it’s an expensive visit.  Not that I think you should do one thing or the other – I would’ve killed for an NYC wedding, but going to the burbs made it so much more affordable, and we were able to have a much nicer event.  

Post # 16
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

I understand your conundrum! I just had. to. have. our wedding in the city because of the photo ops, the plethora of vendors, the uniqueness of our venues, etc. The list goes on. But we did pay a high price in having to cut corners that we wouldn’t have had to cut if we’d done it in the ‘burbs. I think you should make the decision based on whether it’s worth it to you to sacrifice some of the super luxe items that you could have upstate for the city wedding feel. I will say it would have been much easier to do it somewhere else, but our wedding was so unique here that I don’t think anyone will ever forget it! Either way, I’m SURE your wedding will be just lovely. Good luck!

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