NYE wedding guest – can I bring my husband?

posted 7 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2892 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

jade31 :  The invite was just addressed to you, and not you and your husband? 

If she only addressed it to you, I would think that it meant she was only inviting you… although it’s pretty rude to not also invite your husband, especially on NYE when that night is special to a lot of people and they usually like to spend it with their partners.

Did she invite the partners of your other friends?

Post # 3
784 posts
Busy bee

You were asked to RSVP nearly 7 months before the wedding without your husband?


Uhhhh yeah I’d ask for clarification. To me, it doesn’t matter “who the invite was intended for” because all of this is rude AF.

Post # 4
978 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m thinking that your husband is not invited.   Pretty ballsey of her expecting people to go to her NYE wedding without their so.  Would be an instant decline from me.  

Post # 5
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

She wanted RSVPs already???  I wouldn’t go to a NYE wedding without my husband.  That’s rude to invite only you. 

Post # 6
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

jade31 :  are you sure it’s an actual invitation? Maybe it’s a Save the Date for the both of you 

Post # 9
1228 posts
Bumble bee

I hope it is an oversight in how she addressed her invitation. Otherwise, lol @ her thinking you would rather spend NYE with her and the love of her life, instead of the love of yours.

Post # 10
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I just received an evite for a wedding a few weeks ago. It was also only addressed to me. I just messaged the bride and she said my S.O. is invited also. Not sure why he wasn’t included on the evite though…. If it wasn’t an oversight I definitely would not be going!

Post # 11
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Is it possible that she is trying to gauge interest in the wedding before confirming her final guest list? It seems super weird to me to send an e-vite as the first and only notification of the wedding. 

Post # 12
533 posts
Busy bee

jade31 :  I would think that if it was just addressed to you, its just you invited… Personally i wouldnt go to any wedding without my husband. Thats rude.

Post # 13
1891 posts
Buzzing bee

Just ask her if your husband is invited. If she responds and says the invite is only for you? You just tell her, thanks for clarifying. Then you just change your rsvp to no without saying anything. That shows pretty clearly where you stand and doesn’t cause drama. 

It is a pretty obvious, her rude actions had consequences. Those being, you didn’t attend. Id then send a card with congrats but no gift, or maybe a very small gift item off their registry no more than $25.00

Post # 14
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

jade31 :  My fiance and I were invited to a wedding via evite and it was only addressed to my fiance. However, there was also no way for her to address it specifically, as the same invitation was sent to everyone in one email with all the guests cc’d! (not even bcc’d smh).

However, when we rsvp’d on the website, it gave us an option to add a plus one, which we assumed meant we were both invited. Could just be an oversight because it is an email invitation!

Post # 15
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

jade31 :  Are you sure she hasn’t sent an invite to your husband’s email? 

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