(Closed) OBGYN or Midwife??

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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sonyazach87:  I’m actually going the opposite route. With my daughter, I had a midwife. I absolutely adored her! However, she’s no longer doing deliveries since she just had her second baby so I wanted to find someone else. I met with a few midwives and just didn’t have a connection with them. 

I wound up getting in touch with my best friend’s OB and absolutely LOVE her! I’d sworn off OBs because they’re usually so straight to the point and inpersonal, but I absolutely adore this woman. She holds my daughter at every appointment, takes time and just chats. She’s great! I opted for an elective cesearean this time around because I had an awful urethra tear with my daughter, and if I tear that same way again (which is likely) I’ll wind up needing another surgery and having permanent damage. Not a risk I want to take at 25 years old. 

Anyway, it’s totally up to you! Meet with a few of both and see who you like and who will stand behind you in your choices.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I ended up wirh my OB because he is ridiculously convenient to my work (I can walk) but I love midwives and think they’re a great option for low risk pregnancies!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I went OB and have never stopped wishing I’d gone with a midwife instead. Friends of mine had suggested a midwife all along for the extra attention and care you receive. I wish I’d listened!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I really think it depends on the provider’s personality and how well it works with your’s vs the type of degree they possess. My OB is absolutely wonderful, he answers all my questions and I never feel rushed or unimportant during our visits.

There are a few midwives in the practice and I did see her once because my doctor was tending to an emergency. She was about my age and came off as really unprofessional to me. She even did an internal exam without removing her large solitaire engagement ring and it really grossed me out and it bothered me how lax she was about infection control. I am also a nurse with a master’s degree, so I feel like I should stick up for my fellow nurses, but really there are good and bad on both sides, and each patient should find a provider that works best for them. Good luck!

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Delivered with a large OB practice in a hospital with my first. I was just a number, and had a lousy experience with the hospital. This time we are delivering with midwives in a birthing center. I am stoked! The experience has felt much more personal and relaxed.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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sonyazach87:  I absolutely agree that it depends on the individual provider. I absolutely loved my OB. He’s an older guy, inprivate practice, who was very nice and easy to talk to. Appointments were fairly quick and easy, but he was happy to answer questions if I had them. He was very supportive of my natural delivery and let me avoid almost all the interventions (I did end up getting my water broken at nearly 10 cm and got an episiotomy, but that was it). And he was with me for over two hours of pushing, encouraging me when I was having a really hard time. But not all OBs are so awesome. It just depends. Personality probably matters more than the degree the hold.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I love my midwife. I’m 22 weeks now and I’ll give a short list of my experience so far. 

My appointments are just as frequent as with an OB but they usually last an hour and are one on one. I have my midwifes cell and she encourages me to cal with any questions. If I’m worried about baby for any reason, I can stop by and either peek in with the ultrasound or listen with the Doppler. She caught my low progesterone and hypothyroidism before they caused a second miscarriage. She also found that I have Rh- blood and hubby has RH+ so I will be getting the Rhogam shot just like any other pregnant mom. We had he option for genetic testing(but decided to opt out) and we had a full anatomy scan at 20 weeks. 

I feel really safe in her care and she’s been great to really involve my husband too. He is able to ask all the questions he wants  I know that when delivery day comes, she will take good care of me and my baby. We are planning a home Birth but the hospital is only five minutes away (6 blocks tops) should the need arise. 

Please feel free to ask any questions and I totally agree that it’s the personality that matters. trust your gut when you meet a provider, it’s never too late to find Someone you’re comfortable with. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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sonyazach87:  my first appointment was at nine weeks and we did have a dating ultrasound. I was measuring a bit behind but baby has since caught up. I had another ultrasound at my following 13 week appointment too. 

 

Post # 14
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Worker bee

I’m going to an OB but that’s bc I’m an at risk pregnancy. Fortunately, he’s been great and he really takes his time with me.

I’ve always been interested in midwife practices though bc I have heard many great things. Be sure they have good obs partnered with them in case there is an emergency! It doesn’t hurt to ask what they would do in that sort of situation.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

What’s considered “low-risk”? I have a doctor apt on Monday so I’ll speak to my doctor about it (GP) but would an older (>35 years) be automatically considered high risk? I’m 37 and interested in the midwife option but is it even an option? How do doctors usually feel about midwives?

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