Obligation to pay for hair/make-up to "get ready" with the bride

posted 3 months ago in Beauty
Post # 2
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244 posts
Helper bee

Um, what a shady-ass move. Especially considering the hotel room thing.

Honestly, if I were you, I’d tell the bride she should have been up front about the cost (or, you know, even that there was one), that you can’t swing that amount of money, and suggest she find someone else who’s ready/willing to pay for it that can take your place, then. 

I feel like I’ve been saying this on the bee so much lately, but here we go again: your friend sounds like an ass.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Uhhhh this sounds like miscommunication. 

But. The bride should have been upfront with you about exactly what she meant by “get ready with me”. Then again – you could have asked too. When it comes to weddings there is pretty much always a stylist involved so the bride probably assumed that you agreeing with her, meant you were happy to get everything done professionally. 

Still she should have told you how much it costs. 

Frankly, I’m paying for my stylist to do HMU for my bridesmaids and my mother. It’s costing me over $1k but it’s a cost I’m bearing because it was my choice to have a professional come in. 

But end of the day, you don’t have to pay it. It’s not your wedding. You’re not even in it. It’s just an awkward situation. 

I’d tell the bride “thanks but nah” – she can’t make you pay it .

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

It sounds as if she needed one more body to secure her contract. Of course she should have disclosed the cost before booking your appointment and unless she’s entirely clueless she knows she is taking advantage of you. $300, plus a tip, for something you don’t even want? Graciously decline. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Tennessee

Wow! That sucks, she definitely should have let everyone know ahead of time. In our culture we don’t offer something and expect the person to pay. So I find this highly rude. Sorry bee 😔

Post # 6
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Honey bee

$300?! My bridal makeup was $300. That’s really steep. She should habe asked first. Wtf. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee

If anyone in our group tried this they’d get this text.

“Beotch you never told me you were hiring a pro nor asked about cost. No thank you.”

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

“sorry, ill be getting ready at home”

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

sweets2017 :  Screw that. That’s rude and shady. You’re not obligated to pay for anything like that. I’d respond back saying “The price wasn’t disclosed in the initial request so I’m going to respectfully decline the services” she can’t force you to pay. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

It is extremely rude of a person to sign someone up to spend xx amount of their own money without having checked with that person if it is ok. 

If you only want your hair done, then stick with that and she can figure out the rest. You also were not even made a bridesmaid (not to rub salt if there is a wound there) so the fact she had you pay for some hotel room you wouldnt normally is also pretty crap. You need to draw the line.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Hell no. Don’t even feel one ounce of funny about declining. That is completely ridiculous. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee

If she can’t cancel it, she should pay for it.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

You don’t want to be a source of stress to her, but that’s literally what she is to your right now. You don’t owe money you didn’t agree to pay. Period.

Post # 15
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Honey bee

She’s full of crap. If you haven’t paid you can cancel. I don’t get the hotel thing though.

 sbl99 :  What you call miscommunication I call being an asshole.

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