Post # 17
Just rise above such comments. None of them are about you, a put-together, secure person would not say such things to someone who obviously adores her ring — so would have to conclude that they have some sort of insecurities within themselves they are dealing with — consciously or subconciously… I have been surprised, and often hurt by some comments I have received regarding all sorts of aspects of the wedding. I’ve learned that in response, you just show compassion and patience, because weddings seem to bring out all kind of emotions from different people. As long as YOU are happy with your ring — your fiance chose it for YOU, how special is that 🙂 ! — that’s all that matters.
Post # 18
I had someone say to me, “OMG! That ring is amazing! Is it real? It can’t be real! Can you take it off so I can get a closer look?”
I said, “No, I can’t take it off because it isn’t real. It’s imaginary and you can’t look any closer at an imaginary ring.”
“Ok, but is the diamond real?”
Really? I just rolled my eyes.
I have to say, while mine IS real, my sister has been married for 26 years and has been wearing a very high quality CZ set in sterling silver all these years. No one could ever tell the difference unless they had one of those magnifying eye piece things. They were engaged at 18 and married at 19. The plan was to buy a more expensive ring later, but she just loves her ring and now and she wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. It is beautiful! So, in my opinion, it doesn’t really matter, and whose business is it anyway what you wear on YOUR finger for the rest of your life? 🙂
Post # 19
I have a round halo setting, and my sister said it was “small” and she would not accept a diamond smaller than the size of the ENTIRE setting. That would be like 3 carats. Good luck with that.
Post # 20
I really only got one mean spririted comment. I have a .75 carat center stone in a halo setting, so the diamond looks much bigger than it actually is which is great, but a friend of mine who knew how big it really was and who has a carat center stone looked at it and said, “wow its pretty but yours isn’t a full carat is it? Mine will be 2 carats with the band we get.” WTF?
Post # 21
I mean, if you have the means, great. But not every couple places a high importance on the ring either. Just because you can afford it…doesn’t mean you have to. We are very practical. I don’t even think my diamond is small at all – that’s the thing. It’s like people just say mean things for the fun of it. But it is about framing it. You all are so right, I should rise above and tie my hands together. And start doing yoga 🙂 The comments rarely happen…but when it was at a happy shower for me filled with love and happiness…the comments really stood out.
Post # 22
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
haha I second a lot of what people have said…people are just stupid and petty sometimes. If you’ve seen my ring, I have one larger diamond surrounded by lots and lots of little tiny diamonds. My Future Sister-In-Law said to me “Well I certainly wouldn’t want any little diamonds on my ring–I’d rather spend my money on a bigger, nicer diamond.” I just looked at her and said “Well I love every single little diamond on my ring.”
Just take comfort in the fact that the only one who has to love your ring is YOU!
Post # 23
A friend said “Oh it’s so small!” to which I replied “I think you mean, dainty and perfect for me”. She was suitably embarrassed enough to apologize and none of my other friends have said anything to my face about it.
Post # 24
I have an aquamarine, too! Don’t you just love it? My heart flutters a little every time I look at it and think of all the care and love that my honey put into choosing it and putting it together for me.
Mine is an oval aquamarine in a halo setting — simply gorgeous. The rudest comment I’ve gotten was from an older friend who looked at it and said, “what is it?” and I said, “it’s an aquamarine.” And she says, “No, I mean what kind of ring is it? It’s obviously not an engagement ring. When are you going to get an ENGAGEMENT ring? You know, with a DIAMOND?”
Post # 25
Argh, my aunt, uncle and cousins annoyed me with their comments. My ring is a 3 stone, totalling 1.3 ct. I picked out the ring myself and the size of the diamonds that I thought would look best on my finger. I absolutely love my ring but when they saw it, they said things like “why didn’t you get a bigger ring?”, “I thought you were supposed to spend 3 months salary on a ring” and “he has such a well-paying job, why didn’t he get you a nicer ring?” Just thinking about it right now is pissing me off!!
Post # 26
When I got engaged, I got a lot of these kinds of comments. The most memorable being from a friend of a friend, who when she saw it said “Aww, that’s cute. Do you think you’ll ever want a bigger diamond?” Um, no. My ring is a .33 carat center diamond with 3 small diamonds channel set into the sides of the band. Yes, my center stone is only a third of a carat, but I WANTED a small stone, because a) I have skinny fingers b) I don’t like big bling and c) it will be less expensive to replace, in the unthinkable scenario that I lose it. 🙂
Post # 27
I’m a NYC girl too, and I’d never make such horrible comments! I’m sorry they said such things to you. 🙁 I have a “non traditional” e-ring -blue sapphire with a diamond on each side, and my FI’s own mother asked me if that’s what I really wanted. Sheesh.
Post # 28
Ha, these are terrible! Sometimes you just have to wonder, do these people have any tact? My favorite was while sitting at lunch with my friend the day after we got engaged. She has been engaged for over a year.
Her: Let me see that ring!!!!! Oh, it’s so tiny (mine is .76 carats..not small especially on my size 4.5 finger!). I like the solitaire, I am so mad that my fiance got me the wrong ring. I just don’t have the heart to tell him that I wanted a solitaire. I mean I tell him all the time that my diamond is too small (note: her center diamond is 1.5 carats, I think, with both side stones at .6 carats each..over 2.5 total carat weight!!!) I really wanted a 2.5 carat solitaire. Oh well, I’ll upgrade it in a few years…oh but yours is so cute and tiny! It fits you well…
Post # 29
That was so rude of them to say!!
Post # 30
People just have no couth at all! When I got engaged, the FIRST question I got from quite a few people was “so how big is it?” Mind you, I had not shown any of the people any pictures – nothing – but that was the first comment. I was like, seriously?!? Why would YOU even care? My response to them was, “It’s exactly what I told him I wanted.”
Post # 31
One of my best girlfriends who had gotten married about a year prior to my engagement actually had my least favorite reaction of any one I’ve received. She asked to see it and when I showed it to her she looked at it and then immediately changed the conversation. I guess it’s better for her not to say anything that to say something not nice? Alot of people comment that it’s “simple”, which doesn’t bother me b/c thats exactly what I wanted! I heart my simple, unadorned, imperfect ring. :o)
Sorry everyone has had horrible things said. Seriously don’t understand how people end up with ZERO manners. Makes me want to have 50 babies just to raise them right to offset all the rude people out there.