Post # 47
On the night I got engaged, I had someone argue with me about whos ring was better. Both rings were beautiful but at that point I was just so excited to be engaged. I didn’t want to argue about which ring was better.
Post # 48
We picked out my engagement ring together. I didn’t want a diamond because I had seen some beautiful sapphire e-rings and fallen in love with them! So I have a gorgeous natural PINK sapphire solitaire (which will match with a pink sapphire wedding band! yay!).
Mostly I’ve gotten positive comments about it, especially about how unique it is. But the other day I went into a jewelry store. One of the women working there asked to see my ring and commented on how much she loved it. She took it to clean it and showed a co-worker. Her co-worker was like, “Wow! Is that a pink diamond?” When I told her it was a sapphire, she just said “oh” and walked away. Rude lady.
I love my ring and love that it matches the majority of my wardrobe 🙂
Post # 49
My boss was really excited and asked to see my ring. So I hold out my hand and she said “Oh…you’re going to replace the center diamond with something bigger, right?” WHAT?!?
Post # 50
I agree it would be rude to simply ask your Fiance or husband how much he spent, but you should have your ring appraised for insurance purposes, and that is something you’d want to know about personally. The carat weight of the diamond(s) will be a part of that appraisal. Fiance and I share our understanding of all our assets and finances, and given that my engagement ring is worth almost as much as our car, that’s something I feel is important to know.
The rudest comment I’ve gotten came from a habitually jealous friend, and I can hardly blame her, but still slightly irritating: “Dear goodness do you think there are enough diamonds on that thing.”
I find it interesting how there are folks on this thread who have had comments about their ring being too simple and cheap, as well as those who have had comments about it being too extravagant. People seem to want to cut women down however they can when it comes to engagement rings. Jealousy is an ugly thing.
Post # 51
People are incredibly insane when it comes to commenting on rings. Somehow the ring is never big enough, blingy enough or perfect for the entire world. It amuses me but it can definitely be a tad depressing at the same time.
Just remember that you got the ring that you wanted and love and don’t let anyone else rain on your parade. Hopefully the vast majority of people in your life will be far more supportive and appreciate the beauty in the ring and how important it is to you.
Post # 52
When we married we picked chose quality and not quantity. i.e. we picked a beautiful smaller diamond. My ring had a 1/3 carat diamond in it. During all the years that we’ve been married (almost 29), my husband always commented that he’d like to “upgrade” my diamond. I’ve always told him no, that it is the diamond that we picked out, it meant more to me, etc. I truly never thought that I’d want a bigger diamond. And I wouldn’t have had I not come across the one I have now the way I came to receive it. I now have a 1 carat diamond in my ring as it was the diamond that was in my grandmother’s engagement ring. She is now deceased and it really means a lot to me to be wearing her diamond. Honestly, were it not for that fact, I’d still have my 1/3 carat diamond in my ring. Now, I just have to have something made that I can use that diamond in. 🙂
Post # 53
dont you know thats what the ring is for? a nice punch leaves a cute little red mark right on the forehead 🙂
Post # 54
YOU LET HER TRY YOUR RING ON!?!?! wow. i never even take mine off – even for my mom and sister i didnt take it off, they had to look at it on my hand.
what a biotch!
mostly i get the “woah nice ring.. i thought your FH was a govt’ worker!!!” like hes destitute or something. I also had a relative say after seeing my ring that it looks like something out of a cracker jack box… so yeah you cant win.
Post # 55
I wear rings constantly, but they tend to be siver or white gold. I also have my hands in strange places like swamp water, or frog guts (biologist). Hubby got me the perfect ring – a .5 carat solitaire on a thin, plain white-gold band. i was so totally happy! I proudly showed it off to probably dozens of co-workers – from the president of the college to the custodian. Most of them were thrilled for me as the years prior had been really rough. But a few kinda had strange responses like “Well I guess that is appropriate for a third wedding”, or “Oh, (pause), that’s nice.” A mere 3 months after getting my ring, I hosted a cook-out and after cleaning up, I looked down at my ring and the stone was GONE! Total melt-down. Every try to locate a diamond somewhere in an acre of lawn and woods? Luckily, hubby got some type of extra warranty/insurance for it and the store replaced the stone. I had them set the diamond lower and I think it looks better. I definitely think it is a better cut diamond too. But now I am paranoid about wearing it. I wear it to work most of the time except if I know I am going out in the field. I wear it when we go out. Other than that, I rather not wear it. I do wear my wedding ring, 24/7. Picked a sturdy one for just that reason.,
Post # 56
“Is it REAL?” That question makes me want to put a REAL diamond imprint on the persons face.
I’ve had my share of comments, but this one makes me mad. Everytime someone comments on how “pretty” my ring is, my coworker chimes in and says “Yeah, it looks like something out of those 25 cent machines!” Um thanks.
We got engaged at the same time & my ring always gets oohs and ahhs while hers requires some serious squinting. Just sayin’.
Post # 57
- Wedding: September 2010 - The Glen Manor House
People never cease to amaze me.
I will admit I tripped on my words once when a friend flashed her ring and it simply wasn’t my taste. I’d NEVER be blatantly rude, though! Jeesh! I just played it off that I was SO excited about her engagement and that the whole thing just left me speechless I was just too giddy to keep my thoughts straight. It was kind of like, “It’s just so…! And I’m so…! It’s all so exciting!!!”
Post # 58
My worst comment actual sadly came from my sister. I think her exact words, upon seeing us for the first time since we got engaged and looking at the ring, were “EWWW, it’s ginormous!” She didn’t say it in a joking or admiring way (not that I require her admiration, I just don’t want to hear “EWWW”). Yes, she literally said “EWWW.” Then, she went back to reading her book. I was livid! (My center stone is 1.5 carats and was selected by my Fiance because we thought it was a particularly stunning stone, not because of the size). Regardless of the size of my ring, I wouldn’t expect such a response, esp from my sister. She’s been excited for us since then, so I’m letting it go, but at the time, I was super annoyed.
Post # 59
How hard is it to say, when someone who is happy and in love and just got engaged and shows you her ring: “Wow, how gorgeous! I’m so happy for you!” I manage it all the time, even when the ring is not to my personal taste. I know she likes it and that is enough for me. Does anyone really think a newly engaged woman want’s some sort of brutal critique of her ring?
I must admit, I get a bang out of hearing these stories. Especially the ones where people are asking the carat size. I really don’t understand that whole obsession! People can be astonishingly rude. I never had any insulting comments, although a bit of confusion because I had a ruby as the main stone, and an unusual vintage-type setting. People just aren’t sure what to do when faced with something a little different. So I got a lot of “Is it an engagement ring?” (uh, yeah, or I wouldn’t be wearing it on my left hand) “Is it your birthstone?” (no). But once people got those out of the way, they were always very complimentary. I guess I’m very that lucky I don’t have any really rude acquaintances or friends!
Post # 60
Oh, I have to tell this story, because it is somewhat related. I always told my fiance how my sister (and MOH) is the one person I can always count on to be brutally honest with me (which mostly I don’t mind, she is seriously my best friend). He wanted to see if the loving sister would win out over the brutally honest sister, so he got me this truly evil joke ring at the dollar store. So I went to pick up my sister at the airport a couple of weeks after getting engaged, and I wear this ring. So of course as soon as we hug, she grabs my hand to look at the ring. The look on her face! Priceless! I could see how she was struggling between being utterly horrified and not hurting my feelings. Finally she says feebly, “This just can’t be right.” I had pity on her and said, “Of course it’s not” and then just LMAO. After seeing that monstrosity on my hand she was so relieved to see the real thing! And she still laughs about it, too. I gave her the evil dollar store ring as a souvenir.
Post # 61
I think the rudest thing I’ve gotten was from one of my classmates. She got engaged about a month before I did; her ring is a three stone with (I’d estimate) 1/3carat center stone. Mine is a .7carat solitaire. Another classmate asked to see my ring and was admiring it, said how big it looked (I get asked all the time – I guess people think it looks bigger than it is) and she piped up, unasked, “Oh, I didn’t want a big stone. My ring is nice and humble, just like me and [her FI].” and then stood there looking smug.
I have NEVER been braggy about my ring. I don’t show it to anyone unless they ask. I don’t tell people the size unless they ask, and then I downplay the size, explaining that it looks bigger because of the setting, the cut, etc., that the national average for engagement rings is actually over a carat and mine is under, and so forth. If I brag about anything, it’s the fact that J picked the design himself, and did an awesome job. And I usually mention that we both think the quality of the diamond is more important than the size, and that he bought accordingly. I guess that could come across as a little braggy, but hey, my diamond is awesome!
I was stunned when she basically said I was proud. 1) I have a right to be proud of the gorgeous ring J gave me as a symbol of his love for me, and 2) I wasn’t being unduly proud!