Post # 77
I had a saleswoman in a jewelry store tell me that my Art Deco estate ring looked ugly with the wedding band I was trying on, and then told me that the filigree on my ring was so worn-looking. NO SHIT lady, it’s 80+ years old!
Obviously we didn’t buy anything from that store 🙂
Post # 78
My Fiance works in the public service, so every year the exact income of each person who makes over a certain amount of money is posted in a major newspaper. Apparently some people had done the calculations of how much two months salary would be, and mentioned that my ring “didn’t look like it should cost X amount of money”.
I just laughed and said “Shit, do you think we got ripped off?”. Kind of priceless, just because we actually spend less than a quarter of what she thought we should.
Post # 79
I wear my engagement ring on my right hand because I have Erb’s Palsy in my left arm from an accident at birth so my left hand is really small and I can’t really move it well. I also like to tell people it is custom in Spanish & German cultures (my heritage) to wear your wedding ring on your right hand but that’s not the point. I overheard a really rude girl at work who had also gotten engaged a few weeks before me making fun of my ring to a couple of guys (who probably could care less too!) that it was too small and I was wearing it on the wrong hand. I really wanted to tell her that I almost picked her setting but liked mine better and mine cost more anyways. But I don’t really care to argue over which ring is better so I just kept my mouth shut. And my ring is almost a carat which is plenty big in my opinion. My friends couldn’t believe it when I told them what she said!
Post # 80
Wow! What a ridiculous comment “You’re not really married if it’s not gold or platinum”. Um, I was under the impression that being married was about commitment and love and all that crazy stuff but apparently I’m wrong and what REALLY makes you married is the type of metal your ring is made out of. If rose gold doesn’t count does white gold not count either? Because I’d hate to get married and then find out that my marriage wasn’t valid due to the metal my ring is made out of. <Rolls eyes>
Post # 81
Mine is an Art Deco sapphire, and I have had lots of comments about how DIFFERENT it is to a traditional engagement ring. One friend asked if it was ‘appropriate’ for a primary school teacher; my sister’s first comment was ‘Well it certainly is different. Why can’t you ever be traditional
?’ Ah well – vintage rings aren’t everyone’s cup of tea I guess!
Post # 82
It’s funny that I run into this post, because just last week I ran into an ex coworker of mine and she asked to see my ring, and her exact response, “Ohhhhhh, it’s soooo cute!” Cute??? I was kind of offended. Yes, the size of my ring may not be huge, but you don’t have to call it cute! I really felt like justifying why it’s only a 0.7…’it’s from Tiffany’s’ or ‘it has really good color/clarity’ but so many people just look at size and it drives me insane. And yes I am very aware that my FH splurged for the name, but still I felt like saying it was from Tiffany’s would justify it a little bit, especially in her materialistic eyes! With that being said, that’s probably why she hasn’t had a boyfriend in years…very materialistic and expects way too much.
Post # 83
That really stinks. An engagement ring is a symbol of love, not a status symbol and it’s so frustrating to hear people make comments like that. 🙁
Post # 84
my sister is getting married in 2 months and when she and her boyfriend got engaged, her boyfriend’s brother’s Girlfriend informed her that “her ring looked fake” and then proceeded to tell several people her opinion as well.
Post # 85
A few weeks after I got engaged I ran into an aquaintance while out with friends. She was recently engaged too, so we did the usual congrats, and checking out our rings. Mine is a 1ct round solitaire with side stones down the band set in a 2mm yellow gold band. Her ring was totally different, princess cut, white gold, thicker band. My honest response was ‘wow, its beautiful, you are a lucky girl!’. He response to mine was ‘How big is it?’ And when I told her she said ‘Oh. Mines bigger!’ in a smug sort of way. So I said, “yeah, your Fiance must love you more than mine loves me. Thats how they measure love, in carats.” and I walked off.
Post # 86
People get weird with this type of stuff. I have a very good friend from HS that still lives in my hometown. She has a group of friends there who are all either married or getting married. One girl fought with another over house size, another fought with another over ring size. One even left a comment on FB asking the size of my ring, and even specified, “I mean the center stone size and the total size of the bands.” Needless to say I did not answer. Oh-and she didnt like her first e-ring so she had her Fiance exchange it for a larger and differently cut stone. She then proceeded to tell MY friend that, when she does get engaged, her BF can NOT buy her a ring with a stone larger than 1.5 carats because it wouldnt be fair to the rest of the group for her to have the biggest stone. Really? I mean, really??
Post # 87
I’m so glad to know I’m not the only one who has heard this sort of comment. My Maid/Matron of Honor actually looked at my ring and said “Oh it’s so little” and I have had more than one “cute”. My reaction was much like yours, “uh who calls a ring cute?” But I know in my heart that all that really matters is that my FH loved me enough to take the money his beloved grandma had saved for him his whole childhood by collecting pop cans and spend it on me to show me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. That’s all that matters, and no ring can come close to the value of what that means.
Post # 88
I had one friend look at my ring and since my ring is very very detailed on the band when she said oh will you take it off so I can see I figured it was to look at the detail. Nope it was so she could try it on and take a picture of her wearing my ring with her phone— weird I think!
Then I had a close friend of my FI’s when we were out to dinner one night and saw her, go my goodness I’ve heard enough about this ring could I please finally see it. It was said in a way that both my Fiance and I were like ohh great what are people saying about it, it was like we were being scolded almost it was rather uncomfortable.
Post # 89
Soon after I got engaged a coworker (who I hardly know) grabbed my hand and said “awww look at your tiny ring..it’s so cute.” WTF? I picked out my ring and I absolutely love it. It’s not a huge stone; it’s a little over 1 ct. and it’s a solitaire, but I have a size 3 finger so it actually looks much bigger than 1 ct. I love my ring and that’s all the matters, but her rude comment did bother me.
Post # 90
1) I agree with previous posters that no one really wants to hear that their ring is “cute.” I’ve heard it and it made me crazy.
2) I showed one of my college roommate’s my ring and she said, “When I get engaged, I’m not accepting anything less than 2 carats.” Um…nice. I adore my ring, and it’s not 2 carats, but it is a bit over 1. It’s more than good enough for me but apparently not good enough for her, haha.
Post # 91
I hate how the ring is always a competition thing among catty girls… thats just stupid! Everyone has their own tastes and preferences. I can’t stand the girls who have to say, “I want at least …….. carats” after looking at someone else’s ring, thats so rude. Most of the time, they dont even know what that would cost, and they’re still single!
I think people have no class who don’t know the difference between a rude comment and how to respond appropriately after looking at peoples’ rings.
Now I’m worried about the comments I’m gonna get about my ring once I get it!! It’s a 1ct, which I thought is a decent size, but if anyone says anything, now I have some good comments to say 🙂 Thanks girls!