Post # 1
So, I’m counting down the days until the wedding, and after a culmination of getting sick of my 241 lbs body, my upcoming nuptials have been the last straw to nudge me into a new lifestyle. I’ve purchased healthy cook-books because I want it to be an overall lifestyle change from wedding and especially beyond, and I’ve incorporated a lot more activity into my life.
Since I’ve began this journey nearly a month ago, I’ve lost 10lbs. Every Saturday morning, I weigh myself, and diligently jot down the number, no excuses. I also write down every single minute of activity that I do and what I’ve done so I can look back on it later and see how far I’ve progressed, if I ever get discouraged.
I don’t know if it’s a problem or not, but this is consuming me. I’m an “all-or-nothing” kind of person, and I know it’s indicative of the perfectionist type of person. I want to reach out to you, fellow full-figured bees, have you found yourself in a similar situation? How do you find comfort in a “happy medium”? At a month young at this new lifestyle, I am still adjusting, and I wonder if it gets easier to focus on things other than watching the fat melt slowly off of your body?
My fiancee is wonderfully supportive of my new endeavor, and has joined me at the gym when I go. I am a little afraid that my “PUSH!” attitude may be too much for him, because I know I’m a little high strung.
Offer me some personal experiences that have helped you to stay motivated, but have helped your weight loss journey not consume every ounce of mental energy.
Thanks, Ladies~! This is my first real post; I’m looking forward to many more. 🙂
Post # 3
Welcome to the bee, and the best of luck on your journey 🙂
Post # 4
Goodluck!! it’s tough but you can def. do it!! I have lost 40 lbs in the past year or so…i have 20 more to go…and you sound like you’re doing a pretty darn good job!!
Post # 5
Good luck and Congratulations on the 10lbs!
What really got me motivated was seeing wedding dresses. It kind of made it all real. I get a lot of help from my fiancé as well. He was overweight in high school but was always into sports (he played basketball and still does at times in the men’s league). Toward the end of high school he lost the weight but continued to work out. The gym is basically a second job to him. He’s gotten into power lifting and he also trains for MMA so he knows a lot about fitness.
There’s also a mind set to it. My fiancé says it’s better to say “I want to release weight” as opposed to “I want to lose weight” because when you lose something you have a possibility to find it and you don’t want to do that with weight. Not sure if it helps all that much but I do it.
I’ve basically been overweight all my life and have always tried to take it off. I’ve learned a lot with trial and error. My problem is I want to see results right away. I work so hard and eat right and then get on the scale and see 1lb lost and get a bit disappointed. I then try to take a deep breath and realize that 1-2lbs a week is better for long term; you’re less likely to put the weight back on.
After a while it did get easier for me to stay motivated. I write down goals for a set time frame (say 2-4 weeks) and then what I’m at once I reach that time frame. I also take pictures once a month. It’s really nice to see the progress and it help to show me that my hard work is paying off.
Since January 24th, I was at 210lbs, I’ve gone down: 16lbs, 3″ in my chest, waist and hips. My goal is 150lbs (I’m 5’5″ and have a muscular lower body)
Good luck again! As long as you put in the work it will happen!
Post # 6
Good luck, nothing makes a woman get into motivation for getting in shape as a wedding. I know for myself we got an ellipitcal machine Jan 8th and almost every day I do between 2-5 miles on it! So you can do anything if you set your mind to it
Post # 7
My Fiance joined Jenny Craig with me back in August even though he really didn’t need too… he just wanted to be supportive. So far I have lost 40 pounds and him 30… I’ve sort of plateaued in the last month or two so we are trying to kick it up with a walking program. I’m hoping to lose 40 more but even 20 will do. I did order my dress in a size smaller than i wear now so I must keep motivated!!!
Post # 8
Thank you so much for the kind words and the motivation. Thanks to everyone else for chiming in with the congratulations as well. Yes, the dress shopping was a terrible experience for me, because I assumed it would be an easy task to accomplish, but I was incorrect. The little wedding calendar that my registries and theknot.com have really helped me to step it up a notch.
I like your idea about taking progress pictures too. That same logic was why I started jotting down the activities I do, and the weight I’ve lost, but my logical bit of my brain understands that numbers don’t make as much of a difference than SEEING results. Sometimes when I catch myself in the mirror, I think my face looks thinner, and my stomach is shrinking, but then I wonder if that’s just an illusion. The pictures will definitely be worth it in the end.
One benefit to having altered my diet is softer, less dry skin. That was an added bonus that I didn’t even bank on but really shouldn’t come as a shock.
Also, congratulations to all who have responded on your individual results. You ladies are going to motivate me to be as amazing as you are at keeping with it.
Thank you for the support, and if you can think of any little tips and tricks along the way that I haven’t thought to ask about, be my guest. 🙂
Post # 9
@StuporDuck: Oh my gosh I know how you feel lol. Sometimes I will look at myself and think “Wow I can see I’m shaping up” but then a little bit later (maybe even 5mins later lol) I will see myself and think “Wow I look horrible.”
The first and the second pictures might not look very different by the more you take along the way the more you can see and it’s amazing. It’s funny too, I don’t know if this is how it is for everyone, but sometimes I see myself differently in person than I look in pictures. So the pictures are really nice.
“One benefit to having altered my diet is softer, less dry skin. That was an added bonus that I didn’t even bank on but really shouldn’t come as a shock”
That is the nice thing about healthy eating. You’re getting more vitamins and nutrients from your food and less bad thing so you whole body is being transformed. Even exercise and sweating helps to detoxify the body.
Post # 10
Welcome to the Bee Jules! Congrats on your weight loss! You’re doing great!
Post # 11
congrats on the 10 pounds! keep up the good work. their are tons of support posts on here so make sure to find on and get on there when you are having a bad day. you can do it!
Post # 14
About 5 years ago, I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. Nothing like a health scare for motivation – I lost 30 pounds and have pretty much kept them off all that time (with some minor fluctuations). Doesn’t mean it’s not an everyday struggle. And I still could stand to lose another 25 pounds.
If diabetes runs in your family, I encourage you to read up on the risks and long-term effects. This is one disease you can actually prevent. Also, really think about how good it feels as you lose the weight! More energy… more positive outlook… and sometimes even better sex because you’re more confident!! That’s such a worthwhile benefit in exchange for not eating that donut. 🙂
My best advice is to work on that “all or nothing” perfectionist mentality. To be successful in the long run, you have to replace it with a “learning to ride a bike” mentality – if you fall, get back up and get right back on the bike. Think about how to “stay on the bike” a little longer next time, and eventually you’ll be cruising down the street.
Congrats on your progress, and good luck! You can do it. Just be kind to yourself if you slip – it doesn’t make you a failure, just human.
Post # 15
Update to self: Good job on keeping it up! It’s been 2 months, and you’re down 18.5 lbs. Not too shabby, if I do say so myself. Your positive attitude is commendable, because I know how difficult your life-long weight struggle has been. Thinking, “I CAN do this!” and believing it and owning it is more important than the numbers marching downward on the scale. For that, you deserve a hug. If I wasn’t getting married soon, I’d totally treat you to some new clothes and a spa day!
It’s your duty, Jules, to pass along the good will to the rest of the bees when they have times of self-doubt or set backs. Once you get going, it’s not so bad. Life is about choices. Every day, one by one. They add up. When you make the wrong one, it doesn’t ruin the platform it’s resting upon, so long as the next choice is a healthy one, and a choice you’ve consciously made because you love yourself!
Keep it up!