(Closed) Obsessed Ex Wife How Do We Get Rid Of Her From Our Lives

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

get a restraining order for harrassment

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I would get police involved. Is changing numbers an option? Get it to where you’re unlisted so she can’t search you guys. And keep a positive spirit! Sorry you have to deal with that :/ 

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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Sounds like your fiancé needs to take the reins here

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

You won’t be able to reason with this woman.  Continue to record all her messages and possibly speak with a lawyer.  This is harrassment whether or not threats are involved.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

I can’t believe your Fiance has been putting up with such behaviour for 7 years…

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  littleminion.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

late30excited:  

It sounds like the ex wife is mentally ill and she is also very jealous.

Maybe your boyfriend has been putting up with her nonsense for so long because he feels sorry for her. Nevertheless, he needs to put a stop to this behavior immediately. 

I’m surprised the police won’t charge her for harassment since she is behaving like a stalker. 

If the police won’t get involved, I agree with the letter from the lawyer suggestion. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee

Can you change your phone numbers? 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I am not exactly in your situation, but I do sit next to a narcissitic bitch at my job who likes to harrass me on a regular basis (like your police, my work won’t do anything more than talk to her about her behaviour, which does nothing to change it for more than a day or two). I’ve figured out how to deal with her by…

1.) Ignoring her whenever possible, these people thrive on attention (good or bad). Do keep a record of her calls, though, including their content, but do not engage. She will make a big mistake at some point, either threatening you or him, and then you’ll have her by the balls. Threats are suitable grounds for a restraining order, but make sure you talk to your lawyer to see if you can’t get something done before it escalates to that point.

2.) Make sure she is well aware of how happy you are, absent of her presence in your life. If she ever gets you on the phone or you are ever forced to make contact, play up how happy you are together with her ex and how you’re planning for a wedding/going on a romantic cruise/etc. Most narcissists are miserable, insecure people and being happy is the best revenge against them.

The lady I deal with is an older, unmarried woman who is awful at her job and extremely jealous of me. She tries to make my work life hell and stress me out because her own life is miserable, and she can’t stand to see somebody else happy. I used to call her out on it, but she got her jollies from pissing me off, so now I just refuse to engage and that drives her nuts. Meanwhile, I feel nothing towards her and my work life is just fine. It took me months to get to this place, but it is worth it when I see her storm out of here every day in a tiff because she can’t bully me. Good luck!

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