Post # 1
As a new bee, this is my first post and I am sooo thrilled to be happily engaged to my wonderful fiance! We have only been engaged a few months and we have realized that we won’t have any financial support from our parents, therefore we will have to pay for our wedding on our own. We both have decided we want a small, but a very “elegant” wedding (we want the wedding of our dreams!). Ofcourse the level of elegance I’m talking about has a high price tag, therefore we need doing some major saving. My problem is, we want to have a long engagement (2019 Bride) in order to do A LOT of saving, and other stuff like enjoying the time being engaged, BUT I am a the type of person that is OBSESSED with planning just about any and everything! It is driving me crazy knowing that I really can’t plan/do anything, except look at Pinterest for ideas and get a very basic idea of what we would like to have (location of venue, ideal season, etc). Since I work in a school, I am on summer break so I don’t even have work that can occupy some of my time. I’m trying not to look up some much stuff because I know I am already starting to drive my fiance nuts when I show him stuff I really like and the wedding isn’t anytime close.
This has turned into a rant, but I would still like some suggestions on what other brides/bride-to-be’s have done to pass time? Or what early planning can really be done?
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
Hahaha – love this 🙂
Ok… so. What money do you currently have? Or are you starting from scratch?
I would say that you can start researching venues now so that you can put down a deposit once you can afford to.
You can also start researching the overall ‘look’ you want the Wedding to have and see what decorations would fit in with that. If you plan to DIY anything, you could start now! 🙂
Hope this helps 🙂
Post # 3
Since you have summers off, maybe you should look for a summer job. Kills two birds with one stone – less time to think about wedding plans, and more money to maybe even move the date up/afford more dream items!
Post # 4
starting from scratch essentially. I think if I have atleast one goal in mind (saving X amount for deposit for venue) that will give me something to look forward too. Thank you for the ideas!
Post # 5
as simple as that sounds, that never even crossed my mind! I guess I like the long break from work but I can definitely see the pros of a part time job!
Post # 6
You can most definitely start planning! Personally, I would focus on one thing at a time and pay it off. Start with important things that most everything else will revolve around (venue, dress, etc.) or start with little tings (accessories, MUA) that can be bought and piad for NOW and one less thing to worry about!
Personally, I’d stay away from anything decor related until you have your venue space and are much closer to the date, unless you have space to store it. Things can change and you may end up not wanting/needing it. All of the decor accessories I bought before I ended upr eselling because I didn’t want or need them anymore.
Post # 7
We had almost a two year engagement and it has flown by! Start by doing what you’re doing with Pinterest and gathering inspo, and then start making calls to locations/vendors to get price quotes, these might change by the time you book but more than likely the cheapest venue/vendor will still be the cheapest.
Price out EVERYTHING, write up a guest list, pick EXACT linens and flowers, read every “what every bride should know” article.
Good luck bee!
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
My advice: take some time to learn Excel. It will be of great benefit while planning.
Post # 9
I’m also having a long engagement (not as long, 22months). We have 10 months left and the last year flew by, but the first months were really hard.
Occupying time: I couldn’t stay off Pinterest, I hated not being able to do anything, I couldn’t wait to dress shop, I couldn’t wait for tastings, etc. So after two months I started researching venues. I’m a type-A sort of person and I made a chart on pricing/distance/pros/cons of each venue I searched (looked up 100’s and added about 50 into the chart). We booked our venue a few months after but it was great to take our time visiting three venues. And that chart is now coming in handy for newly engaged friends! Other than the venue, there was nothingggggg to do, I was driving myself crazyyy. So I distracted myself with making art and engaging in politics lol. Bernie supporter here, so I volunteered for him and went to rallies and phonebanked. That occupied my mind for a few months until the real planning can start.
so I guess what I can recommend is to find a hobby to distract you, it seriously helps, I practically forgot about the wedding for a while. And it’s never too early to book a venue.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2017 - Living Desert Zoo and Gardens
While Fiance and I are not having a long engagement, I had the same issue with feeling crazy when we weren’t planning anything yet. I spent most of that time in research of everything I wanted to accomplish once things did get rolling and making spreadsheets of my research, and the other part of it throwing myself into my hobbies. Makes it a lot easier to focus in general if you have other things you love to keep you occupied! I definitely recommend trying to keep down the topics you bring up to him cause I know at least for Fiance it stressed him out if I kept talking about something that was still so far off. Makes it much easier on everyone to try and condense showing him things!
Post # 11
Maybe there is even an industry you could work part-time in that would give you discounts on wedding services? Bridal shop, florist, etc. Could work in your favor down the line (or could totally work against you!)
Post # 12
Fiance and I have been engaged for 14 months now and are getting married October 2017. Honestly the first few months was pretty chill, then I started browsing for dresses casually (it ended up becoming obsessive considering I ended up purchasing a dress last year!). Then we took a bit of a breather to just enjoy being engaged, his sister got pregnant so we also just wanted to spend time with her and our nephew/godson. Last week however we officially put a deposit down for a venue and now it feels REAL.
What has helped me is just start reseraching potential venues, vendors, etc. My Pinterest was out of control (I pinned everything that looked pretty) so now I have started a new board with our colours and things that we want to actually draw inspiration from. I also bought a wedding planning binder (from the knot) which has been pretty helpful. Now that we’re just over a year out I feel it’ll go by quick.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre
We are having a year and 2 months engagement, we have somethins booked already. Planning our wedding so far has been a pleasure no drama.
Post # 14
My engagement will end up being 2 years, 4 months long (8 months to go now!). For the first year or so, neither of us really planned anything beyond what year we’d get married (we’re eloping overseas and part of the reason behind the long engagement was so we could save up and pay for the entire thing without putting anything on credit cards). However, for the past six months or so I’ve been nervous about not having planned ‘enough’. I’d be asking Fiance regularly “when are we going to book flights??” and he’d be telling me to relax because there’s plenty of time.
I found that giving myself certain dates (book venue one year out, flights 8 months out, accommodation no later than 6 months etc) helped with my feelings of panic about nothing being booked. Once Fiance and I decide to do something, it’s done fast – we researched and booked our flights in the space of an hour one night. If I find something ai like but it’s not time to book it yet, I just save a picture or bookmark the website and move on.
Post # 15
We’re saving up for the engagement ring and the wedding. It’ll be minimum two years before we get married. Hopefully 2018, but if not 2019. I feel you…
You can definately start planning now. I guess what you could do is save all the inspo pics and sort them into categories. I often do this and go through them every once in a while and delete stuff off that doesn’t fit my theme, even though its pretty. You can’t have everything on pinterest lol. I’ve also started some spreadsheets and word documents about the things i want to talk to each vendor about, whether it be what I want, the questions I have. You can also note down a few vendors in each category you’d like to use and their prices.
Everything is noted down, even the wines I would like to have there, some drink/food options. Everything. You think of something, you write it down. Maybe guest list? If you were to have small wedding, this would be who you would invite. Medium size? Add B group. Large? Add C group.