(Closed) Obsessing anyone?

posted 6 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Er…i have no experience to help you as i haven’t married yet..but that seems a bit too much..i KNOW i will relive all the detaisl over and over again, but not to dwel on the things that maybe won’t turn out the way i planned, but thinking of what DID happen the way i wanted. Above all i will relive in my mind all the laughters and the FEELINGS of cush an incredible day..try and let go and breathe in your new life..

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you need to relax and enjoy being married. Freaking out about simple mistakes like the strap is not going to do you any good, and I bet not one single person would have noticed the difference!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

A recently married friend of mine is disappointed with her wedding and it’s so sad because they spent such a stupid amount of money. It was by far the best night of my entire year. Such a great party. I think it’s time to start focussing on the positives. the only person that gives a shit about your lace strap, is you & there’s so many other wonderful things for you to focus on. Your vows maybe…? The speeches..? Seeing all your family..? 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I did this for a while, too. It took me a few months to stop obsessing. I think I did it because once all of the planning was over, I had too much free time on my hands–I had to direct my time and energy somewhere and kept going over everything in my mind. I ended up driving my husband crazy as I went through every little thing that wasn’t “perfect,” especially since the day/evening was so magical and the things I was thinking about were so small, details that no one else would have noticed. The funniest part was that I wasn’t worried about anything day-of and just enjoyed every moment without any worry, which is really out of character for me. The other thing that made my obsession after the fact so odd is that I was never one of those people who always dreamed of what my wedding day would be like. I think this happens especialy to the planners and detail oriented people! I promise this will pass…

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

ahhh! I know just how you feel! I did it for awhile after my wedding. I wasn’t crazy about my hair or make up but at the time there was just so much stress to get ready and out of the house on time. When I got the pictures back I started to notice things like how huge the hair flower I choose looked or that I could see my tan lines, or how my dress seemed too long. However everytime I look at my photos I can’t help but smile. Because the feeling of the day was amazing and that is it what you’ll remember years to come. btw, I think your dress looked perfect!

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

awwwe…I am so sorry you are struggling with this but just so you know your waste IS tiny and you looked beautiful! Just think if a single strap could make that BIG a difference every garment in the world would be constructed with one. This is all in your head, because you KNOW that strap wasn’t done up you think you can see a big difference. Truth is it made so little difference that you didn’t even notice on the day of.
If an annivarsary party is something you really want to do, then do it! I’d love to get another wear out of my dress, but it is packed and stored away. Keep the party in mind, and possibly by the time your one year rolls around you will have been able to move past the dress issue. When I first saw your pics i gasped and thought “what a beautiful bride!” and I am sure that is the impression you made on everyone!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Well, I haven’t had my wedding yet but I know I will be!

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

i obsessed about some things for a while after. eventually i moved on, you will too.  even during my times of high obsession, it helped to remember that ON the day, i was as happy as can be and now that’s the feeling i am still left with when i think of our wedding.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@kokoni7 -Trust me it is a minimal difference! so small in fact, I couldn’t see it at first, and even then I could only tell because you have pictures side by side. Try to let it go, it isn’t fair to drive yourself crazy over such a small difference. You looked beautiful, I promise:) 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I honestly cannot tell the difference and I am sure neither could your guests but because you can, it’ll play over in your mind.  I am like that and i obsess about details I could have done differently or change after a big event I have planned.  You will get over it.  

As for the anniversary party, that sounds fun.  I know you want to do it so you can do things right that didn’t get done right at the wedding but in a year, you won’t feel this way.  You might even look back and LOL at yourself.  I do. LOL.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m still having moments 7 weeks later. I’ve even decided that I hate my dress. I want to redo the whole process as I didn’t know of weddingbee and had no idea what I wanted until AFTER I bought my dress. I had alterations and they went wrong.

However, I agree with @PurpleUnicorn. I keep reminding myself of the way I FELT not looked. My hair dropped too quickly, my make-up ran and my lipstick smudged, but the photos at the end of the night when I’m smiling at Darling Husband are my favourite. I married my best friend! 🙂

I think the anniversary party sounds fantastic! Also, I can’t see the difference. Your waist is teeny and you have a smokin body!

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