(Closed) Obsessing way too much over BM dresses!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I did, until we agreed they’d pick their own – it’s so hard pleasing everyone! With different body types, skin tones, heights, and taste preferences, one dress for all is nearly impossible. 

I have noticed that most of my girls have oohed and ahhed over J. Crew’s dresses. They seem to be fairly universally liked, the only issue for us is that they don’t carry plus sizes, and I have one Bridesmaid or Best Man who is plus sized. 

What if you narrow it down to a brand, material, and color – would they be comfortable picking their own style – even if it’s the same one, maybe just put the decision in their hands – then? 

Post # 4
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i think you need to put your foot down its not fair on you stressing.  Tell them if they cant decide on a dress beween them then you will pick one for them and they will have no choice but to wear it – i bet you will be suprised how quick they decide on one!!

Post # 6
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@hilsy – just go get that strapless tea length dress from DB or Alfred Angelo that everybody has for their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and be done with it – it’s not that expensive, mostly everyone looks good in it, and most people have a storefront nearby, or can order offline. No one really cares with the BMs wear, to be honest, so you can really just let that one go. I know you know what dress i’m talking about! It’s flattering, but common, but that could help their resale value.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

yeah, i think so : ) I will tell you, after all of the dresses at DB and AA, my other Bridesmaid or Best Man pal and I just picked that one b/c it was the best compromise for our friend’s wedding. That’s what she wanted, too.. the best for what we all thought we’d be comfy paying. In my opinion, you’re not going to get a great Bridesmaid or Best Man dress from one of those stores. Not great as in wear-it-again great. I guess TECHNICALLY you could.. but when would you? A wedding? i’ve been worried about wearing my Bridesmaid or Best Man gowns to weddings, b/c WHAT IF the BMs are wearing something just like it? They all kind of have a feel to them. Unless you go off the beaten path and get some cool anthropologie dresses or something, you’re going to have that issue. 

Maybe you can have them all wear the dress that works the best out of what you’ve seen, but have them personalize their look with accessories. Then you can appease the newbies by picking the dress, and appease anyone not completely loving the dress by giving them freedom with the rest of it.  But choose quickly so you can have one less worry 🙂

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