Post # 1
When we e-mail or message privately on Facebook for people’s mailing addresses for Save-The-Date Cards and wedding invitations (these methods are the easiest way to contact people these days), do we come right out and say why we’re asking for their addresses? Or just ask with please and thank you? And if we go the latter route, if they ask why we want their addresses, do we say why? I just feel it’s awkward to come out and say why.
Post # 3
If I had an email for a member of a family I sent an email asking one family member for all of their siblings or childrens addresses. My Mother-In-Law was great when she handed over her list of their family friends and relatives, she had everyones name, address, phone and email address on a digital spreadsheet. All I had to do was download it. She also gave me a hard copy, which I was glad I had, when our computer crashed a month before the wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
No one questioned why I was asking for their mailing address- I think most of them assumed. One friend in particular- “Hey, I need your address so we can send you a wedding invite.”
Post # 5
@SandyThePoet: A lot of our guests don’t know each other, so asking one person in bulk won’t work for us. Plus, these days, I’m finding a lot of people just don’t know each other’s mailing addresses. We have family memeber’s addresses, but it’s the friends’ addresses we don’t have.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I just went ahead and asked people, and if they asked me why I told them. Most people just handed it over, though!
Post # 7
For the facebook subset we just asked for people’s addresses, noone really asked why. I think they assumed why we were asking. I also hunted a bunch down if I had visited them before, its important to look them up online if you do this because I learned the hardway that street addresses and mailing addresses aren’t always the same.
Post # 8
People probably know you are engaged so they will just assume. I didn’t tell anyone why. I just sent text or FB messages. I sent each person an individual one b/c I know some times on FB or iphones when people respond it automatically responds to all. I didn’t want to risk people having their address go out to people they might not know.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I never said why. I just asked for the address point blank. If they ask why, you can always say your finally getting around to updating your address book. Let them piece it together.
Post # 11
Well, out of the five people I messaged today, two asked why I wanted their addresses (and they know we’re engaged, so we can’t use the clueless-about-what’s-going-on excuse). I told them why and have yet to hear back. Urgh.