Post # 1
We got a lovely crystal flower vase for our wedding from a sorority sister of mine who had gotten married 2 months before. The card said: “DH can us this to give you flowers every anniversary!” We opened it and on the side of the vase it has THEIR names and THEIR wedding date engraved on it. Odd, right? I thought maybe it was a mix up and maybe she had made a few for all the weddings she was going to this summer and made personalized ones for each couple and one for herself. However, she has said nothing to me about any mix up which leads me to believe it wasn’t a mix up but a very poorly done re-gift, like they didn’t even notice it had THEIR names and wedding date on it and just decided to regift the crystal vase they didn’t want.
Honestly, I do not want some vase with someone else’s names and date on it. Should I mention it to her like it was a mix up and give it back or just toss it? I really don’t want to keep it and think that if they knew it had their info on it they WOULD want it, I know I would, but I’d also be extremely embarrassed for regifting something like that. What should I do? What would you do? Awkward…
Post # 3
give it back to her as if it was a mix up, it has THEIR names on it for heaven’s sake!
Post # 4
buy her a cheap bouquet of flowers and put them in the vase and leave them on her doorstep…
Post # 5
I would just take it to Goodwill and never mention it again. Totally not worth stirring up some drama over. It sucks, but in the end it will make a good story 🙂
Post # 6
I’d play dumb and tell her-gosh there must have been some mix up because the lovely vase they gifted has their names and wedding date. Surely, she would want that back….
Post # 8
@StarryNight2011: Thanks, I kind of feel the same. We were just speechless when we opened it in front of our families, haha, funny story though!
Post # 9
@StarryNight2011: <– THIS.
If she’s going to re-gift, she needs to learn how to do it better than that!
Post # 10
Just shoot her a quick text about how much you love the vase, but that you think she mixed it up with a vase she must have received for her own wedding since her name and date was on it. It could still be a mixup that she didn’t notice. HOWEVER, it’s probably that she got the gift, didn’t even open it to check what was inside, assuming that it was just your regular crystal vase, not that someone had personally engraved it for them. Maybe if she knew that, she wouldn’t have wanted to regift it. Maybe she got 2 vases – and she decided to give you one of them and just picked the wrong one (The one that had the engraving). I would just shoot her a text and let her know the vase she gave you has her name and wedding date on it and see what she says. Play it off like you think it’s a mixup, not like you know she’s regifting you something she received.
Post # 11
Is there a chance they didn’t realize it was engraved? I’d probably give it back myself, rather than donate it.
Post # 12
That’s a toughie… Are her feelings very important to you? I think she would be embarrassed, but really, that’s not a proper gift.
Post # 13
I’d just be honest and say that you think there was a mix up. 🙂
Post # 14
Hahahaha. The audacity of people. Anyways, I definitely agree with StarryNight2011. I wouldn’t let it go unsaid or put it to the side. I’m sure she wouldn’t have appreciated that 2 months ago.
Post # 15
@futuremrsk18: Pretty much this. She probably never even bothered to open it (I’m guilty of this, we still have some random gifts sitting around in boxes).
Just let her know you think there was a mixup and return the vase to her.
Post # 16
@Mrs.LilyLunaLove: I would give it back in case it was a mix-up. It sounds fairly expensive, so I think that tossing it could be a mistake. I wouldn’t mention the re-gifting. If it was indeed a re-gift, she will have learned her lesson.