(Closed) OCD anyone?… st. johns wort?

posted 8 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Be careful using herbal/naturapathic remedies especially st. john’s wort.  If they prescribe you a SSRI or MAOI which are commonly prescribed for anxiety, depression, and ocd (lexapro, prozac, zoloft, paxil, etc) it can interfere and cause a deadly reaction as seratonin syndrome and it also affects Implanon (hormonal contraception).  Just get doctor and pharmacist approval.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@JuneBride_26June2010: I commend you for realizing you need someone to talk to. A lot of people push these feelings under the rug which lead to even worse things.

I understand what you’re feeling, as I suffer from OCD caused by ADD. While I’ve grown out of ADD, I have a lot of lasting OCD side-effects. The best thing for me has been prescribed medication. People feel like they’re crazy if they have to be put on medication, but sometimes it’s the best thing for your own piece of mind. If you’re hesitant to go the medication route, therapy & stress-relieving methods will be great for you.

Please PM if you ever feel the need to talk. Starting therapy (and medication if you do decide on it) is a scary thing to deal w/ if you feel no one else around you understands.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@JuneBride_26June2010: I nearly cried reading your post as I am so relieved to be reassured I’m not alone (though I never truly thought I was in this respect).

I self-diagnosed my OCD years ago, but have also been told by many people in my life that they notice it too.  I can relate to anxiety attacks over obsessive thoughts, and I definitely think it is so brave that you are going to talk to your husband about this, as I know how hard it can be to even admit to yourself what’s going on in your head.

I used to take St. John’s Wort as my dad told me I should back in high school since I come from a family that mostly tries to reject meds.  However, I didn’t notice a huge difference after taking St. John’s Wort and so I just went without anything for a long time.  A couple of years ago I started using Bach’s Rescue Remedy for anxiety and I would use it constantly.  However, I took a flight a couple of months ago and realized I couldn’t take it on with me so I got rid of it.  Now I think I am better off without it, actually.

I would encourage you to see a professional about this.  At the same time I think I am trying to encourage myself to do this, as I am terribly afraid of seeking help after having had terrible experiences with therapists during adolescence.  If you haven’t already done this (though I’m sure you have), you could do an online test for OCD and then bring your results to your doctor or whoever you get a referral to.  Here is a link to one.

Please also don’t hesitate to PM me as I can totally relate and will NOT judge you in any way, shape or form.  Best of luck with talking to your husband – you are so brave!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry – I took so long writing my post and didn’t realize you had posted a second time.  Whoops!  So glad you were able to talk to your husband and that it went well.

Btw, I also have social anxiety (even my SO is embarrassed by it sometimes) but I find it a lot easier to deal with than OCD (like you, I just don’t go out most of the time, ha!)

Hopefully you are able to find a fantastic therapist!  Don’t give up until you do!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@JuneBride_26June2010: I’m so glad you spoke w/ your husband and it’s great that he’s being so understanding. It will definitely help ease your fears.

It seems ADD is not just that, it leads to other mental issues as well. Like you I also have other anxieties, and was diagnosed with Agoraphobia last summer. I was put back on medication but it never really helped. While it’s hard for me sometimes to leave the comfort of my home, I have to force myself & know it’s the best thing for me. I think it’s great you got a second job, it definitely helps with Social Anxiety. I also feel it shows you’re taking strides to come out of your shell. I know all about researching online. You want to know that you’re not alone & that your symptoms are real. It will also help you to describe to your physician certain traits you notice about yourself. 

As far as your husband, now that he knows what you’re dealing with maybe he’ll ease up on “forcing” you to go out. Maybe he’ll understand now that it’s not because you don’t want to or are being stubborn, but that it’s hard to leave home. As mean as this sounds, he doesn’t know what it’s like unless he’s gone through it himself. But also put yourself in his shoes that he probably feels helpless. I know Fiance felt that way when all this started for me. He’d do his best to make me feel better, make me feel comfortable, but he just didn’t understand.

Hold your head up. You’re definitely headed in the right direction. I hope all the best for you & I’m always here if you feel the need to talk πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

First of all kudos to you for realizing the fact and also talking to your husband!

I don’t have OCD but my SO does-at least I believe so. The big difference to your case is he doesn’t admit it nor wants help and he gets really mad/offended when I point it out. He has mild OCD which is difficult because it’s kind of in between. He can still function on a daily basis but many small things drive him crazy and not to mention people around him (aka me).

He has contamination fears. Some things really bother him and have ruined our day before, it’s also hard because we live in one of the dirtiest cities (NY)! Since he has always been in denial and tends to blame people around him. He kept starting arguments and it was very hard for me to have sympathy or to even understand what is going on.

He is making some progress by learning to be more conscious about how he communicates about his concerns (before freaking out or getting mad) and I try to listen and be more understanding. I have found that this may be a part of him that can not be changed but we have found a way to try to live peacefully with it…as long as it doesn’t get worse…

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@JuneBride_26June2010: I’m sorry I didn’t get to reply…there was a storm and some construction going on causing a blackout/brownout the past 2 days. Imagine 2 days without internet!

I think you and your husband have both come to an understanding and I think that’s great! You sound like a very reasonable person and want to makes things better your husband also sounds very supportive. Please post how things progress!

With my SO I still think we have a long way to go. Being in denial makes it impossible for anyone to help because he insists that he doesnt need any. I understand that no one wants to be told there is something wrong with them but at the same time they shouldn’t go blaming others for their problems. When we first dated I didn’t see much of this going on because a) we were in a city that he considers “cleaner”  b) we weren’t living together and c) his life was not this stressed. I don’t know what exactly triggered him to get worse but over the past few years his OCD has gone from occasionally to mild (but almost everyday there is a breakdown of some sort even if it’s 5 minutes). I admit to not being helpful at all because he kept knit picking my every movement like my grandma did when I was a kid. “Wash your hands!”, “Did you use soap?”, “Could you not mix this dirty (insert random object here) with other things?”. I hated being blamed and the fact that he was constantly starting ridiculous fights. We had a long talk about this before when I calmly tried to introduce OCD and symptoms but he was very offended and we could never really talk about it. He has slowly accepted some things he is over reacting and tried to acknowlegde that (ie worried about the dirty sidewalk with dog poop that we walked past 30 minutes ago). He will say outloud “the dirty side walk was ok…the dirty sidewalk was ok!” and then we’d enjoy our day.

Other things he just argues that even if he has OCD (ie demanding hands to be washed every time we come home from outside or after we do any deed) they aren’t a bad habbit. Now my argument is being a clean/neat freak is not bad but being obsessed and bothered by someone not doing so and picking fights is bad!

I guess the good part is, if we ever have kids I won’t have to be the naggy mom yelling at everyone to wash or pick up their dirty laundry!

Post # 16
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Newbee

I struggle with it all the time. 

 

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