Post # 301
marriedbliss : I think that is pretty normal. I was always someone who felt like I would have been fine just being “auntie” and OK if I didnt have my own children, but I met my husband and he desperately wanted children. SO I had those feelings at the begining too. It will get better, once the doctor appointments start, you start feeling better, and your belly changes from the in between “bloat” to a baby belly- then excitement kicked in for me! We also started house hunting and sold/bought/moved at the begining of my last pregnancy so it was STRESSFUL, but you will get through it!
I am also starting to have some “what the hell am I doing” feelings right now. My 10.5 month old has started to sleep like shit and I am beyond exhausted– I think shes trying to remind me what it’s like to have a newborn. Haha so I’m struggling with feelings of not being that excited, but I know it will kick in for me… I’m just SO tired! haha
Post # 302
I think I MAY be starting to get a yeast infection. Is this something I should call my OB about? Is it harmful for pregnancy?
Post # 303
Welcome to all the new BFPs! 😀
marriedbliss : I think that’s totally normal. I am feeling that way a little bit….. don’t get me wrong, I am THRILLEd to be pregnant, and especially that it happened quickly for us. We want a family, and we’re older, and so it’s really now or never, and we are so happy to be in this position.
But I’m feeling a little anxious about my career… I’m going to have to quit my current job, which I earned through busting ass in graduate school and years of working unpaid or poorly paid jobs all over the country. It’s a competitive field and I’m anxious about being able to find another in our town. My partner is buying into his company (which is great!) but it means we will be tied to this town for quite a while (which is great! love it here in most ways). I get a lot of satisfaction and a large part of my identity through my career, and I’ve never wanted to be a Stay-At-Home Mom for good, so I’m worried about how being at home with the baby will affect my state of mind. But I’m also really really happy not to have to juggle the horrific state of maternity leave in the US and being a working mom of a baby. Anyway not to ramble, but yes I’m having a lot of feels! I think it’s really natural…
Post # 304
KittyYogi : I am so sorry about you having to leave your job, it sounds like an amazing position!
How is everyone’s nausea? I didn’t have it much with my Dear Daughter, but the nausea so far is knocking me on my bum. I’ve had to pull over while driving and have to take frequest breaks from my computer while working. I’m not ready for Diclegis, but I can’t remember what else I tried other than peppermint tea (I’m nursing and don’t want to dry up any faster with peppermint)
Post # 305
lotus11 : Sending positive thoughts your way. I hope your appointment tomorrow goes perfectly and you hear the heartbeat! Having nausea is absolutely a good sign and from what I’ve heard, brown spotting is completely normal. It seems like I’m constantly comparing my symptoms this pregnancy to those from the miscarriage. The more symptoms, the better, I hope. Please let me know how it goes!
Post # 306
marriedbliss : It’s totally normal! I know so many women, myself included, who didn’t fit into the stereotype of being absolutely delighted with pregnancy. I have a two-year-old whom I love more than anything, but I hate being pregnant. I was willing to be my son’s incubator for as long as he needed, and I’ll do the same for his little sibling, but there’s practically nothing about the experience that I enjoy. Also, I’d never been a baby person either, and the prospect of having one of my own to deal with scared the crap out of me when I was pregnant with my son. Some women love the newborn stage (I was shocked when it turned out I did), some don’t, and that’s fine. Society tells us we should be thrilled with every aspect of pregnancy, birth, and baby-raising, but lots of us just aren’t. It’s okay to let yourself feel however you feel – this is probably the biggest life change possible!
Post # 307
PNWbee24 : KittyYogi : cyntist : Thank you so much ladies, you’ve made me feel much more normal! I honestly think it’s the whole baby and house in new area combo that’s got me in a spin. I can picture us with a baby in our current apartment because I’ve got a great support network inside and outside work here, but leaving my area and work, and moving to the middle of the countryside with a new baby is freaking me out.
Honestly, I’m grateful I’m pregnant because to not count my blessings when thousands of women struggle with fertility would be insulting to them. But I’m not thrilled and if I’m honest, I don’t even feel that happy right now!
PNWbee24 : I think you’re right. I’m only nearly 7 weeks so once we get to the first scan and we start telling people and they’re excited for us, I think it’ll start to change. At the moment it just feels like I have a sort of parasite inside that’s making me ill. Just the thought of pregnancy and birth is making me queasy right now.
KittyYogi : I feel you on the job front! I absolutely LOVE my job and my coworkers, we have a great social network in our office and it’s just lovely. The thought of leaving them for a year makes me so sad. I’m lucky in that my company has to legally keep my job open for a year and then I’m hoping to go back part time. I’m definitely aware of how lucky I am. But I’m worried I’m just not the stay at home type. More than a day on my own and I get anxiety and sadness! Also it’s ok not to be thrilled all the time. I think there’s so much pressure for pregnant women to be happy but it’s a huge life event that deserves a range of emotions.
cyntist : thank you for understanding how I feel! Incubator is exactly that. It doesn’t feel natural to have a parasite inside! Once it becomes more baby like I don’t know if I’ll feel less or more freaked out!! Good to hear from someone who’s been through it and out the other side!
Post # 308
jaybear : ooh I don’t know about asking your doctor but I do know about heading them off as I used to have recurrent infections a LOT. What worked for me is wearing nothing on the bottom half to bed (or something loose on the bottom) and eating plenty of live yoghurt at the slightest hint of an infection! I’ve gone from having like 4 persistent infections a year to nothing for three years. Might be worth a try?
Post # 309
I just got my BFP over the weekend.
I’m 35 ( going to be 36 in October, Darling Husband is 44)
This is our second baby. The first one, my son is 22 months old only. We tried everything under the sky to have a baby with him, but nothing worked and when we stopped trying we got our BFP. I have PCOS and my Darling Husband has had sperm issues so having a second baby seemed like an impossibility. My period returned back in Dec and this was our first month TTCing so to get a BFP is shocking honestly.
I’d like to know the gender because I like dressing the baby with the colors according to their gender 🙂
My due date is probably around 17th October but I had my son 2 weeks early too so who knows? lol
I’m honestly very freaked out about how I will take care of two kids! Being a mom is quite a tough job and my career is sidelined already. Last night I had a total panic attack and I cried because I’m scared but to know I’m pregnant again and that too so easily has to mean something.
My Darling Husband reminded me last night that hey dont you have a group of ladies going through this with you? 😀 lol and I decided to check out ( the last time all the ladies ended up making a group on fb and we are still in touch) and I’m glad I found you all here.
Post # 310
Rabia : congrats and welcome! It must be a total shock to be pregnant so quickly after not expecting it. You’re not the only one having a freak out, see my last posts lol. This is a lovely, supportive group 🙂
Post # 311
Rabia : Congratulations and Welcome!
Since nobody has created a Facebook group as of yet, I can go ahead and get started. Feel free to Message or post your email address to get everyone together!
Post # 312
gardunobee23 : Sounds good! Facebook time!! 😀 Thanks for starting it.
As for your question on nausea, I’m still feeling very un-nauseous – which is great and also concerning :S I have a really strong stomach, and both my sister and my mom didn’t have morning sickness in their pregnancies, so maybe we’re just lucky. Hard to shake the feeling that something is wrong since I feel pretty good, though :S I hope you start feeling better soon!!
Post # 313
KittyYogi : just to reassure you – with my MMC I had every symptom in the book and it still didn’t work lol. This time I have way less and I get worried a bit too sometimes, but symptoms really don’t mean anything either way!
Post # 314
I’m also not feeling any nausea… But my mum never had it, and I also have a strong stomach usually, so hopefully I can skip out on that symptom!
What I am feeling is cramps. On and off every day for the past couple of weeks now. Standing up and moving around helps, but sometimes even that doesn’t help.
Post # 315
Age/partner’s age/: 27/27
Baby # 1
Cycles TTC 3
BFP story: I was feeling strange sensations in my pelvic area so I tested at 8 dpo and had a faint but no squinting required line 🙂
How many weeks / EDD? 4 weeks/ Oct 30th
Team Green or finding out the sex? Green!
When are you telling people? Any special plans in doing so? I surprised Darling Husband on Valentines Day 🙂 .. I’m going to hold off since I’m extremly early!!