(Closed) October Brides- What have you learned about planning your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in October 2011
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I learned not to freak out because you don’t feel like it’s cohesive, because somehow, in the end, it all comes together!

And starting too early can make you crazy.

AND deligate things to others–you don’t have to do it all alone.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

don’t get stressed out. even worse things will happen if you do.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree WHOLE heartedly with: DON’T be impulsive. I had to buy a whole new dress over being impulsive and getting TOO excited.

Other lessons…

1) Cherish your time planning with your SO… it’s all about BOTH of you, not just the bride. Even if he isn’t into planning, just have fun. My relationship has grown so much throughout our engagement, and it makes me feel even more certain that this is the man I am so LUCKY to be sharing my life with.

2) Don’t sweat the small stuff (like many others have said).

3) When things stop becoming fun and start becoming stressful, you need to take a break or you need to chill the heck out. I have found that wedding planning is only stressful when a) I am getting too uptight/particular about stuff that is not a big deal, or b) when I am not effectively managing my time and I’m stressed about ‘other’ stuff. Plan early, work efficiently, and take breaks when you are stressed. I didn’t want to taint my planning with feelings of unhappiness, and I am so glad I didn’t.

4) Remember to thank people for their help and to ask when help is needed- never assume.

5) Occassionally watch an episode of Bridezilla to remind yourself what NOT to be. Alternatively, once you purchase a dress, do NOT watch ‘Say Yes to the Dress’ until your wedding is over.

That’s about all the wisdom I have ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Don’t freak out if people don’t seem excited at first… When you’re the one getting married, 6 months out is pretty close, but for everyone else, they might not start acting excited until more like 6 WEEKS out.  It doesn’t mean they don’t care.

If you need help, ask (nicely).  But don’t wait for people to offer and then get disappointed if they don’t.

Surround yourself with positivity and people who you KNOW love you and have your best interests at heart.  Don’t waste your time or energy on fakes and flakes.  If you never could count on them before, don’t think for one second they’ll pull through for you on your big day.

Put your foot down early.  Don’t compromise on things that you think will make other people happy… because really, who cares if Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t like your theme or the colors you chose?!  Be respectful and appreciative, but be vocal about the things that are really important to you. It’s your day and it should be how YOU want it to be.

When it comes to big decisions like your dress, date and venue… Come to your final decision, but then sleep on it for one or two days. 

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

  1. Trust your own instinct. Opinions of others are helpful SOMETIMES, but they will hinder you too. So, be selected on asking for opinions when selecting certain items.
  2. Pleasing yourself should be number one.
  3. Start early and pace yourself.
  4. Create a To-Do-List and try to stick to that closely. This will keep you on track and keep you from veering.
  5. Try to do as much as you can the week leading up to the actual wedding week, so that you can relax and enjoy the your weeding week and pamper yourself!
  6. Research your vendors
  7. REALLY REALLY REALLY research and be on one accord with your wedding coordinator (if applicable), in the end, she will save you plenty of headaches.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

Don’t DIY too much or too late. ๐Ÿ˜€

I pretty much agree with everything else said. Definitely agree with not stressing, especially really close to the date when the outcome at that point doesn’t really matter. ๐Ÿ˜› I’ll have some fun stories to share when I recap. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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