(Closed) October RSVP thread!

posted 9 years ago in October 2013
Post # 152
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1845 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Man. You guys would love my count. 38 yes’s and 24 no’s…… :/ it’s pretty much a Destination Wedding and we on,y invited 110 people but now I’m worried no one will show up!!! Granted they were all Out of Town folkso and I know of a few locals who just haven’t sent in their RSVP but yeah. :/

Fiance just says oh well, less people to feed. (I think he’s over the spending part lol)

Post # 153
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1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Got our first RSVPs today! 4 couples from FI’s family, all attending ๐Ÿ™‚ and Future Mother-In-Law wrote the sweetest message on ours (they’re postcards so there was space on the back for messages). It really made my day!

We’re having invitation drama from FI’s brother, though. The brother’s wife has several adult children from a previous marriage. We’ve met them a handful of times (at holidays and such) but we only invited the one son because he still lives with his mom. Well, FBIL’s wife texted Fiance and asked who the ‘4’ was for on the invite. (We had a line that said ‘We have reserved # of seats for you.’) She thought the 4 was for all of her adult children! Fiance explained that no, it was for Future Brother-In-Law, her, their adopted son, and her adult son that lives with them. She then proceeded to bully Fiance into letting her add one of her adult daughters and the daughter’s kid. I am really pissed. There was actual close family that we didn’t invite due to space restrictions and now we’ve added a woman we barely know and her kid because Fiance couldn’t stand up for himself – for us – against her. I really wish he’d talked to me before he responded to her ๐Ÿ™

To make matters worse, we told Future Mother-In-Law about this and she said that the daughter never goes ANYWHERE without her boyfriend. We have NEVER met him but according to Future Mother-In-Law he’s a skeeze and a total freeloader. So now we have to confront FBIL’s wife and make her know in no uncertain terms that the boyfriend is NOT welcome. I am so annoyed about all of this!

(Wow, sorry for the wall of text, I just really needed to vent!)

Post # 154
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569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sent out invites on 8/26. So far have 45 yes, 6 no– and one of those no’s sent us a nice check in the mail ๐Ÿ˜‰ We still have a whole lot to get. I think we invited around 200, but I didn’t even do a final count…

Post # 155
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201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

So far we’ve got 50 “yes” and 9 “no,” with 60 still to respond (119 invited). I’m finding that we’re getting a lot of people who are coming but not bringing their date/SO/spouse. Only two RSVP cards so far have been a straight-up no. I love getting these cards in the mail every day and will be sad when they stop coming!

Post # 157
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289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We got our first RSVP back yesterday where someone wrote in their uninvited child’s name. Fun convo to come. Womp womp. Otherwise, I seriosuly look forward every day to checking the mail!

Post # 158
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I got a text message from one of our invitees asking if she could bring a +1, but our guest list is at its max for our venue so we had to say no. Oh well, what can you do??

I’d say we’ve gotten roughly 1/2 of our responses back…all yes!  Even some people that we thought were going to say no have confirmed.  We still have 9 response cards outstanding. They have until 9/1, but seriously, people, if you know you are coming, how hard is it to put a card in the mail??

Post # 161
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We sent ours out on Monday and all week we have been getting people calling saying how beautiful they are etc.  it’s so exciting.  

I imagine we will start getting them next week, I’m excited to get mail that isn’t a bill! 

We invite about 170 hoping 150 will attend ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Its coming ladies!!

Post # 162
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3372 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have all of our RSVPs back already. I had to send them out super early since we’re getting married on a Thursday and people will have to take off of work, plus literally every single guest will be coming from out of state.

We had the same problem with people buying airfare and such, but not sending back their response cards. We got a bunch of them a few days after the rsvp date.

Post # 163
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1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I haven’t gotten any RSVPs all week. I’m a little frustrated. I gave them until September 20th to get back to me, so I shouldn’t be annoyed yet, but I was hoping for one a day and having them slowly trickle in.

 

I still also only have one “no” so far. ACK.

Post # 164
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1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We just sent our invitations yesterday and our RSVP (by) date is September 30th ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 165
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1720 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

19 back out of the 99 invites sent

one full no (i already knew bc my cousins spend the month in italy every year), two husbands can’t come (wives coming solo….cousin & aunt so lots of family there to keep them company)……the rest have been yes! 

bc of a mistake on our guest list speadsheet i ended up inviting 182 including us. the inn can only accomidate 175 but I am thinking we will end up closer to 165-170 bc i know of a few others who cant make it

still continued drama from one family (strange situation…not technically related but they are my cousin’s cousins by marriage)…. they threatened my mom/sister at sister’s wedding bc they wanted guests for all kids even though only 2 had serious SO….. bc i did the proper thing of sending individual invite to each ‘kid’ (mid 20- early 30s) even though they live at home the mother started bad mouthing me/my mom to family bc her invite came before the kids. I wish i could say she must have bad when invites all showed up next day but i doubt it since she is  seriously so tacky. 

she has started hinting about so and so’s new boyfriend….. i really hope she calls and asks for another +1 so i can tell her how i really feel

Post # 166
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

forgot the ‘best’ part……. she has also been telling oot guests that they were only invited bc i didnt think they would come!!!! seriously need to be restrained bc all my good manners will be forgotten if I run into her and she starts the whole oh poor me/no one likes my kids thing 

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